Snoozy,
I am sorry you had a terrible time with the Insurance Companies. Unfortunately, those companies are not in the business of being compassionate. It is the bottom dollar with many.
As I said before, and will say again. Hospice was the most compassionate group of people we have ever encountered. Not only did they help with providing pain meds, nurses, CNA's to help with the daily stuff and to help you keep your loved one comfortable as she or he can be.
On top of helping you and preparing you as the illness continues it's path to either healing or the bittersweet sleep of death.. it is a comfort they give to those who are dealing with the real reality of being ill and the loved ones who are facing the horrible fact of actually losing someone to an illness.
When it became evident that this was going to be the outcome of my Grandmother's and even my mother-in-law's illnesses. They helped us prepare and know what to expect in a gentle manner.
Hospice is basically a donation based organization. They do have a program in place for those who do not have insurance to cover the need of Home Nursing. The only things we had to deal with.. were medication ( covered by our insurance and we paid a small deductable). The Hospice of Charlotte, handled the needs of a hospital bed, wheel chairs, lifts etc.
When our loved ones did pass we requested in leu of flowers that a donation be made ( they had a choice) to Hospice so they can continue to help others and to Cancer Research ( in hope's that a cure can be found for cancer.. and no one go through what we have ever ! An that the donation be made in the name of our loved one.)
Flowers die... and this could be something that would help someone live on or help them deal with the hardships of watching someone you love go through all this, as well as the person themselves having to face the unknown frontier .. called death.
Besides that, we knew my mother-in-law would of liked the thought of her legacy living on. By helping others. She worked as a Health Care Educator and has a award named in her memory. Before that she worked in the early days of Radio and Television. Here in Charlotte with WBTV.
In our thinking everyone's loved one deserves the best in care and help. I hope the above site helps you understand Hospice a bit more. As for your insurance company.. don't let them give you any bull caca.. if you don't get the help you need go up the ladder. Some people don't know the meaning of compassion. Snoozy, it is a sad commentary on how some people and businesses have become in thier quest for the almighty dollar.
I how are you holding up ?
Take care of yourself and take it one day at a time.
Best Regards,
Xandria
Shakita,
Sorry to hear about the passing of your father. It is painful even though it is a year ago. It has been five years since the passing of my mother-in-law on Dec. 21st, 1998 and she was buried on Dec. 26th.. as her wishes were. This time of year and then the loss of someone it is hard to deal with because it is the time of year that you have family. It reminds you sometimes very harshly that your loved one is not going to be with you. I have come to realize even though they may not be here physically.. they are here in spirit. I have bittersweet memories.. and it helps to go down to the cemetery an just visit for a while.
Even though the care of the loved one was very tiring, mentally and emotionally as well as physically. It would of been worse with out Hospice, I agree with you there. So from one survivor to another..(( Hugs)) and have a nice Christmas ( even if it is a bittersweet one) and may you have a Bountiful New Year.
Xandria
Edited by - Xandria on 14 December 2002 11:55:52
