So, now i am worried b/c i was going to plead ill health and depression etc. Actually this is all true, i'm just going to use it to may advantage. Do u think they would buy, we are to ill to accept help? Both my husband and i have depression, and i have a couple of chroinc illness that would problaby keep me away from the meeting even should i want to go. It seems to me, that if it is known i am ill, and my husband to, perhaps they will leave it be. i only wory b/c i am not ready to DA myself and my husband wouldn't do that anyway. he'd accept help first. So maybe if we tell them we still view ouselfs as jws,just with severe limitations do u think we can get away with that? i know they could say they could d a phone hook up for the meetings, but have chronic fatigue syndorome and am too tired to do that.
bottom line YOU ARE UNDER NO OBLIGATION TO TELL THESE CLOWNS THE TRUTH and why cause they have lied and dogged you-
if you are not ready to be DAed COOL that is no problem- you are entitled to leave wt on your terms not anyones terms here on this site and that is what makes the net so cool for you can learn how to deal with wt in the manner that fits you best
there are some here on this site who will tell the elders to Kiss thier A$$- and there ain't nothing wrong with that if that is what one wants to do
you are asking about how to do what is becoming very popular and that is the FADE
Some look down on folks for fading-as not be couraguous and honest and on and on, all that is BullSh!T-
each one of us must do what we need to do to --survive mentallly and physically --what one does has nothing to do with what another does
so my advice to you is this, if you are trying to avoid getting DAed do what i used to do when i was first leaving when asked by some of my bethel buddies
james do you believe that jah is using this org"
i would say -OF COURSE IN FACT WE ALL KNOW THIS IS THE ONLY CHANNEL
with the biggest grin on my face you can imagine
take field service time for example we alll know that time is bogus - then do this turn in 5 hours each month it will keep them off your back
in fact juice it up with 6 mag, 3 rv, 6 hours tell them you have been doing informal and telelphone witneseing to neighbors and family
in fact i hope to start a study with one of them soon, you see you are now free to do AS YOU PLEASE- I TELL folks if you are going to leave then have some fun, -
if you are not ready to deal with certain issues that can get you DAed then LIE TO THEM LIKE THEY LIED TO YOU -
have you gotten any apology from them telling you that they are sorry you are sick in the year 2002 and not sitting under your fig tree in the new system like they told you
think about it they told you and your husband that you all would be in the new order by now and here it is Dec 16- 2002 and have you gotten an apology letter- HELL NO
so DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO, AND THERE is no need to feel GUILTY - say to yourself you have ran your last guilt trip on my- smile
and in time what you will find is the same thing i and so many others found, the day will come when you will make your move ON YOUR TERMS NOT THEIRS-
So have some milk and cookies waiting for them, thank them for including you and your hubby in their visit since they are so busy, telll they you will be at the hall ( of course you are not going) but tell them anyway
think and act like a polictican - he or she tells dumb voters anything they want to hear to get their votes-
and when they ask you why you were not there after telling them you would just say:
"Honey child I was feeling like a dog that morning and didnt' feel any better by the meeting time, I had "THE RUNS" KEPT GOING BACK AND FORTH to the John"
like i said HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you are getting my point It is your life live it for the first time like it is your life and not someones elses
