by freedom96 15 Replies latest jw friends
For me it was the 1998 Watchtower that blamed God for their change in the alternative service policy and compared their rewrites of policy to the change from the Law of Moses to the Christian teachings, in other words just as one was from God so was the other.
That for me was the last straw. Just a few days later I submitted my disassociation letter.
IW
Child abuse issue, lack of love, hypocrisy. My last straw was ignoring my son in his wheelchair. I can put up with being ignored but I will not stand for it with my children.
Nina
It started for me right after the 1975 debacle. I personally faded out and so did my wife "now ex".Then around 1987 she wanted to go back. I didn't complain but I didn't show any enthusiasm. Didn't jump through the hoops for the elders. Then I found out, one of my daughters was molested by their uncle, an elder. The elders did the usual "bury this" act and I made it known that I intensly disliked them all. " I wasn't this polite with them though".
Then my now ex wanted a divorce and she milked the elders in ways that got their encouragement to divorce me.That was it. In 1991 I told the jc jerks what I really thought about them and the whole wbts crap. They df'd me and I thanked them. They charged me with fits of rage. I wonder why I was so damned angry with them? Anyone got a clue? There was no adultry, fornication, stealing, abuse, none of the normal things for a df. It was at this time that I believed my divorce attorney, when he described the ex as an "excuisite liar". The elders believed her because they wanted to. But the judge sure didn't. She ended up charged with and convicted for a felony contempt of court. Got 1 year and $1000.00 fine, suspended but reactivateable if it reoccured. She is in good standing with the congregation.
In retrospect I wish I had junked the whole deal in 1978 and let the chips fall where they may.
This is where I learned that if one sees something coming down the road, it may be better to deal with it right now. Rather than sit on the fence and hope it goes away or heals itself. "I think it is called denial".
Well I have rambled along enough.
Outoftheorg
Freedom96,
I really left mentally when the new ray of light further clarified the 1914 generation theory. That's when I decided that a balancing act/double life was in order.
My parents are elderly, and we have such a nice relationship that I can't afford to lose now. I plan to do a nice fade once they either pass away or I move out of state where they can't see/hear about my slacking off.
Take care!
Like others expressed, and as I have said before, the complete lack of love - and downright hatefulness - that we were shown during a time when I was seriously ill was what made me start questioning whether these really were Jesus' disciples.
The final straw for me, the moment when I knew in my heart that I would never set foot in a Kingdom Hall again, was when my then-best-friend told me "If you turn your back on The Truth TM , your three beautiful children will be better off if you take them out in the back yard and blow their heads off with a gun. That way they'll have a resurrection in the Paradise and they won't go down with you at Armageddon."
It was then that I saw JWs and the Organization they represented as completely full of hatred and evil, and I knew I wanted nothing to do with it.
Love, Scully
Gawd, Scully, I'da been tempted to offer him/her the same "shortcut" to Paradise. What a dork.
