HE CRIED HIS EYES OUT ,had a breakdown

nightwarrior

Sad to say but within my old congregation

There was ayoung brother whom wanted to be made up to a ministerial servant,doing everything right,

out on the ministry /good at number 4 talks helping on all the quickbuilds etc.,HELPING OLD LADYS

yet the elders kept on ignoring his request to be made up,he wanted position within the congregation ,as time went by ,the circuit overseer visited the congregation ,everyone thought this is it he will be made up,

The brother knowing he was not getting made up ,this time ,was conducting a reading from platform/couldnot finish his assignment /walked of the platform in tears,went home had a nervous (BREAKDOWN ) came back to the meetings about six months later with a girl started, courting a girl he met in a shoping centre ,arranged a bible study for her she got baptized ,they got married they are still witnesses

would you have been dissfelowshiped if you courted a worldly person ????????????????????HE STILL IS NOT MADE UP (POOR LAD)

Why put the youth your children fighting for position within the cong,why do you allow your children to suffer so much heartache ,

Another brtoher i knew had a nervouse breakdown yet this time he wanted to be an elder,he didnot agree with the way all other elders were treating the flock ,note he was a ministerial servant ,but now he is an elder he sees nothing wrong with the way elders treat the flock,

Any comments on this or has anyone experienced this within there cong

truthseeker1

Quite the opposite in my old cong. They were pushing me to be a MS, but I wouldn't do it. I cut my hours back and took myself outa the school so they would quit asking me. But the were pushing for them.

There was one family in the hall that all their offspring were "a lotta slow" and the elders wouldn't let them get baptized because he though they didn't comprehend the seriousness of it. they were in their mid 20s at the time.

But I haven't seen them hold someone back from MS unless there was some personal vendeta against him or he was doing stuff behind your back and the elders knew about it.

Too many secrets and too many people trying to find them out if you ask me.

roybatty

would you have been dissfelowshiped if you courted a worldly person ????????????????????HE STILL IS NOT MADE UP (POOR LAD)

Not that I know of. But you probably had a lot of elders in his congregation saying "Ah-ha! Told you you wasn't servant material!"

LyinEyes

That is very sad.

When a boy gets say, 9 he gets the pushing done to reach out for more. It starts with cleaning crappy toilets, then cutting the KH grass, then he might get to carry the mics. Baptism, Bethel, Pioneering and all,,,,,,,,and he will be looked upon as worthy of being a MS servant.

Then they tease him with each CO visit, he thinks he has it made, only to be told ,he needs to work alittlemore on his field service, have more productive bible studies, ect.

There seems to always be one or two hard ass elders who have the power to make the young man wait and sweat it out. Seems they get off on their power.

A boy grows to be a man who reaches out for all the privledges because that is what his self worth all his life has been made to be.

If you are a young man and not a MS servant , they consider you spiritually weak.

I have seen young brothers looked over time and again only to be heartbroken. I really don't thnk they want power in the congregation at first, but it is to please others usually.

hamptonite21

Who wants to be a ministerial servant anyway! ugh! i hated it. Had to be at the meetings on sundays instead of snowboarding with my friends because of my "responsiblilities."

HoChiMin

nightwarrior;

>"came back to the meetings about six months later with a girl started, courting a girl he met in a shoping centre "<

The elders will look down their nose and feel justified he was never made an ms after the incident above.

>"Another brtoher i knew had a nervouse breakdown yet this time he wanted to be an elder,he didnot agree with the way all other elders were treating the flock ,note he was a ministerial servant ,but now he is an elder he sees nothing wrong with the way elders treat the flock,"<

You will never become an elder if you don't show you agree 100%, he had to kiss some brown spot to be appointed. Poor guy do you think he knows what he's in for?

HCM

Big Tex

I was lucky I was only an MS for a year before I got married and moved to a new congregation. The elders there refused to accept me as an MS, so I was a "made man". Thank God!

Mum

Strangely, it seems to me that wanting something too badly seems to have the effect of making the thing you want impossible to get. Have you ever noticed that indifference is the most potent aphrodisiac, that being aloof at a party draws people in your direction?

The other problem is being in a position where it requires the approval of others for you to get what you want. Approval seeking behavior is always counterproductive, demeaning, and leads to low self-esteem.

Scully

Hubby worked his arse off for the congregation, always "reaching out" for the PRIVILEGE. However, he wasn't the kind of person to kiss ass to the PO, CO or DO, and he wouldn't tolerate BS from anyone, and he is the kind of person who speaks his mind, sometimes abruptly. (where do you think I learned it from? ) The elders in the congregation didn't really like him because of it, even though he would do just about anything they wanted him to do.

When I told him I was going to quit going to meetings, he was really disappointed, because he knew that any chance he had of being appointed went down the drain, especially since I was "bad-mouthing" the congregation at the time. I didn't make a secret of my disgust with the way they behaved toward me, and it wasn't long before he was no longer asked to do the microphones, or offer prayers, etc.

Guess what? He saw through their CRAP, just like I did, and wants nothing to do with them anymore. He's glad he didn't get the PRIVILEGE after all. It might have hindered his leaving.

Love, Scully

SPAZnik

Sadly, the WTS plays the same socio-political "games" of the "world" they tell all their JW followers to "remain no part of". It's a misuse of power and it's too bad cuz someone always gets hurt when there is a misuse of power.

HE CRIED HIS EYES OUT ,had a breakdown

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