And don't forget, we have your kids".
This sums up in a nutshell the mindset of too many in this organization. A totally unfeeling bunch of cruel, abusive low lifes. Obviously not all in the organization fall under that description, but far too many are all of these things and more. I have known some elders since childhood and know them to be honest, kind men, but they are following the company line and ignoring their own built in kindness.
Dede, you have stated your and your sons story very well. Hopefully the comments from people such as, Ozzie, Guest 77 and Granny Linda will offer you some help and comfort. Bug