Elders want letter from my daughter!

reubenfine

Background: My unbaptized daughter married an unbaptized young man when they were both 18 years old. It didn't work out and 2 years later they divorced.

Now it's 6 years later, (after the divorce), and my daughter never got baptized. Her ex-husband did and is engaged to another dub. The elders told him they wanted my daughter to write a letter acknowledging she is now living in sin. (Has for 5 years with NO elder visits, OF COURSE!) How insulting to everyone involved. I suggested just ignoring it to piss them off, and she wants to write back and tell them to go to hell. I also suggested writing, "I heard you were concerned about me. It's nice to know you care. Goodbye....." or something to that effect. LOL

I told her I would ask for other suggestions and let her know. Some of you are way more creative than I am!

Mulan

How about asking an attorney about it.

I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of the letter they want. I like the idea you suggested.

Shutterbug

Don't even know how to respond to this stupidity. Your daughters private life is hers and none of the elders business. If they push the issue make that fact very plain and let them know there are laws regarding harassment. Bug

NewLight2

Your daughter owes them NOTHING - she was never a JW as she was never baptized. The divorce occured BEFORE the x-husband was baptized also, so likewise, it is none of the elder's business.

Ignore letter.

Then do more ignoring.

Then ignore the elders some more.

If pressed for an answer - put finger on nose - give nose a little pull in the upward direction - then turn head in opposit direction of person doing the asking.

In other words - SHUN THEM!!

SLOAN

out4good3

Your daughter owes them NOTHING - she was never a JW as she was never baptized.

And even if she WAS baptised a JW, since she's decided that she wants nothing to do with them , she still owes them nothing. Why should she give the impression to them that they hold any power over her or that she's accountable to them in any way.

She should ignore the letter, and if they get in her face, call the police on them.

DanTheMan

Your daughters private life is hers and none of the elders business.

DITTO!!!!!!!!!!!

JW elders think that anybody who has ever been remotely associated with their bizarre organization is somehow still under their imagined authority. Please encourage your daughter to IGNORE these pathetic morons!!!!

Buster

I think it hinges on whether your daughter wants to do the ex-hubbie-still-a-dubbie a favor or not. The letter they are asking for is likely for use to document the end of one marriage so he can have another.

If dubbie-ex-hubbie was a jerk, then go ahead and ignore the request for a letter. But if you want to cause him some trouble, just reply that you would like to live up to your responsibility and take him back. Then the elders wouldn't allow the ex's new marriage.

If he was a decent guy, you could send a letter so he can get on with his own, even if is is misdirected, life.

johnny cip

hi reuben; i don't know your relationship with the wt etc.. but if you daughter wants to get RID of them once and for all .. when the elders come to her door ,have her keep them there and excuse herself for a minute .. go in and call the police and tell them you are being harrassed at your door. by the time they show up. she could be crying and under emotional distress... then tell the cops you want to make a report of this. and you want no more contact from them or you will take this harassment report to the court.. the police will have to fill out forms and give it to both parties... i know this is hard, but you must beat them at their own game... and show they can't play with you, give them a taste of their own medicine. it will work 100%... good luck .john

Elsewhere

Your daughters private life is hers and none of the elders business.

Ditto that again!

She should write a short letter expressing that she is shocked and disturbed that they would be asking her such private questions.

Elders want letter from my daughter!

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