Thank you everyone, I hope all will turn out well. I will be on the phone talking with lawyers today and Monday too.
Calamityjane----------Yes my son wants to see her, he loves her, but he is only 9 and doesn't know what is best for him. We were trying to compromise with her by allowing her to see him on his birthday (Jan 5). My x went to the post office on Jan 7 and recieved the court papers from the opposing attorney. He called his mother (my x mother in law) and told her if we would have received this letter before his birthday, she wouldn't have been invited. This was something we were going to try and do slowly, letting her visit with him, but now that she has pulled this stunt, if we win this court battle, she will be lucky if she sees him before my son turns 18.