belly up to the bar, guys and gals (page 3)

RedhorseWoman

Mea Culpa, mea culpa. It's all my fault....I just KNOW it. (sigh) It's because I'm a woman, isn't it? You're all jealous of me, aren't you? That's why tempers get so heated. I'm so pretty damn near perfect (as well as being a goddess) that the rest of you just get all overflowy with angst and trauma. (sigh, sniff, cough)

I swear I will try to be less perfect so that the rest of you may feel at least somewhat worthy. Seriously, I WILL make the sacrifice....I will....just watch. I shall bear the sins of the multitudes. Because of me, ye shall all be washed clean....or slightly less soiled than before....whatever.

If the green tea runs out, may I please have a Margarita? And a couple of croissants? Oh, and sauteed mushrooms would be good. Escargots? Anyone have any extras laying around?

patio34

Well, I just started on this DB about a month or so ago and I really like it. I've looked at others and this is my favorite.

I agree with ZazuWitts about just passing over the threads where they're arguing. And some posters seem to be red flags right away. But some of the confrontations are very entertaining and informative.

Two thumbs up!

Patio

larc

I think it is fine to attack ideas, and good when we admit that someone else has made a good case for their position. I think it is harmful when we attack each other. I hurts us and those who lurk and need help. If we are nasty, mean, vicious people here it will only convince someone sitting on the fence that the negative stereotype promoted by the Society is true, and we may push some back into the Organization who might have otherwise come out. I am paranoid enough to believe that the WT has moles who purposely fomment trouble at a place like this to disrupt some very theraputic work that is going on.

shalom

It seems to me that there are just a few who are spoiling things for everyone else. Some people have to have an opinion on everything! If everyone agrees to leave out the insults and name calling and judging others (this being a big reason alot of us left the Borg), this forum will be a helluva lot nicer place to be. I also think that unless we can prove someone is a 'troll' it would be nice if everyone can trust each other and be supportive. This doesn't mean we can't have different opinions, just do unto others blah blah blah...
shalom
P.S Make mine champers baby!

thinkers wife

Thank you, thank you, thank you, Nate. I totally agree. I used to come to this place for comfort, but lately there has been little of that. I am all for freeness of speech and open discussion. But can we not do that with dignity and respect. Can we not agree to disagree agreeably? I for one experienced too much negativity when I was in the Society to want to go through that again. Life is just too short to spend it being ugly to others. IMO, differences are the spice of life, meant to be savored and possibly learn from.
BTW, make mine Merlot.
TW

Flowerpetal

I'll take a Bloody Mary and say that I think debate and discussion is very good -- as long as you attack the issues and not the person.

Show respect for the other person's side of the debate, and if you get hot with anger and have a knee-jerk reaction because of what somebody said and can't wait to get you hands on the keyboard, why not first type your anger in a word processer, off-line, and read it before you decide to send it. (cooling off period)

Tina

As she sips her coffee,,,,,,respect -quid pro quo-is how I see it. But that's just me,,,,,,,gettin more coffee now

waiting

Show respect for the other person's side of the debate, and if you get hot with anger and have a knee-jerk reaction because of what somebody said and can't wait to get you hands on the keyboard, why not first type your anger in a word processer, off-line, and read it before you decide to send it. (cooling off period)

That is such a fine idea. I've done that before - and it's saved me from making a fool of myself, at least on an occasion or two. On several other occasions, I really, really, wished I had used wordpad first.......

It's all too easy to react quid pro quo to a person's words. We don't know others here - except for their words. A new poster? Impossible to know, just as we don't know strangers. Gut instinct? Very effective, but not foolproof. If we'd meet these same people at work, next door, etc., we might not be so fast to sling insults to each other, but perhaps just walk away once in a while. If we're wrong? What have we invested but a little time?

I'm not saying anything as radical as turning the other cheek, just trying to be civil.

Simon said something neat a while back when H20 was seemingly closing down. "I go to H20 to do battle, I come here to visit." (paraphrased).

I think there's a lot of truth to that statement - or was.

dark clouds

Round of Tequila Nate

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straight up no salt or lemon

TR

Dark Clouds,

I'm with ya, man. I rarely drink, but when I do, it's Jose for me!

TR

belly up to the bar, guys and gals

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