Brandy,
That's a interesting story. Thanks for sharing it.
The JW position on gossip and slander is very lopsided to say the least. If a JW tells slandereous lies about a person that left the Organization it is perfectly alright. They can tell slandereous lies about members of other religions, and in fact about all kinds of people that are "not" JW's and do so with impunity, sometimes they are rewarded if the slandereous lies they tell encourage the friends to stick to the Organization. Surely if the JWs want to be truly righteous in their strict application of strong sanctions against gossip and slander then they need to be unbiased in what they consider to be violations.
Of coarse we know that would never work for them.