What Is A Real Friend To You?

minimus

Just thinking.... Do you consider yourself a "good" friend. We used to say that we had the best friends anyone could ever have. Our friends would die for us. Do you consider yourself a self-sacrificing friend???

unclebruce

nooo minimouse, i'm your run of the mill sleazy shallow backstabbing bastard (my friends like me this way

unc.

ps: seriously though - what kind of question is that? lol. I mean a friend just is, no?

minimus

UncleBooze, the answer to your question is noooo. What is a REAL friend? Somebody that's a drinking partner? Is a real friend a person you can always count on? Many people say they have tons of friends but when something happens, they might realize that their so-called "friends" are nowhere to be found. You know fair-weather friend? Yes?

SheilaM

As for me when I go into a friendship I am there for the person, I am self-sacrificing to the point I end up Mrs. Doormat come walk on me. As for me ever having a real friend I'm sure I've never had a real one

Uzzah

Someone who will tell you that you are being an ass when you have been acting like one yet still wants to be seen in public with you afterwards.

A person who knows you well, your strengths and weakness, accomplishments and foibles, and likes you anyways.

Any fool will celebrate with you but only a friend will be there when you weep and then weep with you.

A friend is someone you can confide in and know they will keep the secret better than you just did.

A few paraphrased quotes...

dottie

Hmm...Interesting...

I actually pride myself on being a very good friend. I have a vault that could NEVER be opened (as in many secrets! you with the dirty minds!! ) I put my friends first and foremost above all, because without true friends my world would be intolerable. I would put my life on the line for all my friends...and my true friends I know would do the same for me in a heartbeat.

To all my friends...and you know who you are...Thanks for being my friend *tears*

OK...enough of the mushy crap...let's go get a beer!!!!!! Woohoo!!!!!

Dottie

Farkel

minimus,

I was given this simple defnition when phone calls at phone booths used to cost ten cents.

"If you had a big problem and you only had ten cents left to call someone, who would you call? And if you spent that ten cents on that person who is top on your list to call, would that person be there to help you no-matter-what? If you have such a person in your life, you are more blessed than most, and you have a REAL friend."

Very few people are so blessed as to have friends like that.

I like that definition. It separates the so-called "friends" from the genuine friends. Genuine friends are always there for you/we. So-called friends are only there for you if it serves whatever agenda they have.

Many or most dubs aren't even "so-called friends." Not even close. They have their own agendas and if you aren't part of those agendas (which are self-serving to them), you are toast.

Epilogue: I have friends that I would to anything in my ability to do things to aid them should they ever need it. I don't even care if they don't feel the same way about me. I am truly blessed to have people like this in my life.

Farkel

minimus

Uzzah and Farkel-----my sentiments exactly. I remember feeling very uncomfortable when my friend expressed that he was leaving the organization,with no second thoughts. He wasn't looking to get disfellowshipped but if he did, how would I treat him? Intially, I felt it would not have been prudent to continue outward association with him. This bothered me but I didn't feel ready to make this bold statement for him or myself. My being his friend was conditional. This disturbed me. I reconsidered my thinking and now feel that if that were to occur, and he did get DF'd, I would show him my support. I would be his "friend".

CoonDawg

Back when my wife and I were having extreme difficulty with my freshly graduated stepdaughter, my best friend would be the type that would almost get angrier at her than I was...because he hated seeing what she was putting me and her mother through. That's a true friend. When my stepdaughter got pregnant and we weren't sure if she should be a fit mother, he and his wife offered to adopt. THAT is a real friend. We drove team together...a trial that can cause a divorce of a married couple. We spent over a year together, 7 to 10 days at a time in a space smaller than most peoples bathrooms, yet we still came out of it friends...THAT is a friend.

Coon

Guest 77

Loyalty through thick and thin. I deal with various types of people on a daily basis and having a genuine freind is rare.

Guest 77

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