This is the article That I referred to in a recent post about the changing nature of the attitude towards the d/f’d. Times have changed and the pendulum has swung back to much stricter attitude today. Notice this part :
“As to disfellowshiped family members (not minor sons or daughters) living outside the home, each family must decide to what extent they will have association with such ones. This is not something that the congregational elders can decide for them. What the elders are concerned with is that "leaven" is not reintroduced into the congregation through spiritual fellowship “
I know some older dubs who still cling to this opinion if they had to deal with it. However, if you quoted this article I am sure that it would be disregarded as old light and that things have moved ahead