Hi Eppie:
So sorry for your loss. You were so young. Losing a baby must be the worse pain imaginable. Here is a poem that reminds me of your question.......
Do Babies Grow Up In Heaven?
Will I know my baby when we meet again?
Will he have grown up, not be the infant that died in my arms?
Will I recognize him, be able to find him among so many others?
Or will he be a stranger to me, not knowing who I am, or me knowing him?
Do babies grow up in heaven?
He never got his first tooth or said his first words.
No first shoes, no Santa, no first birthday cake.
Will my son still be a baby when we meet again?
Do babies grow up in heaven?
Who sings him precious lullabies?
Who holds him close and kisses him every day?
Who tells him constantly that they love him?
Do babies grow up in heaven?
When we next meet, will he know me?
Will he want to know me?
Will he be my son who died at three weeks, or a man, fully grown?
Will I have the joy of being a mother to my son for all eternity?
Do babies grow up in heaven?
Will I be able to hold him, love him, sing lullabies to him?
Will I be able to hold his tiny hand, or will it be a man's hands?
Will I ever have the joy that only holding my son can bring?
I need to know! In heaven, is my baby still a baby?
Follow what your heart tells you about your baby....and find peace with the answer you come to. That is what is most important, not what others think. Because regardless of what anyone tells you, no one has the answer to your question, unless of course they have been to heaven and seen for themselves.
Take care.
Mrs. Shakita