They continue their morphing into a fundamental evangelical cult, without the benefit of the softball game after Sunday meeting.
They love to make rules about sex, including but not limited to masturbation, oral sex, anal sex, 'petting', porn, and now apparently lap dancing.
To any lurkers, just resolve never to talk to elders about anything, and never go into a judicial meeting without a recording device.
Just tell them you are not ready to talk about it yet, and say the same next time, and the next time.