My wife and I had been inactive for about 3 years. I was a born-in and she joined late in life. She was tired of being in a state of limbo - we were not active and isolated from those in at the same time choosing to live under the same restrictions of a Witness.
I knew it was killing the family inside living the way we were. I told her I was ok with everyone celebrating holidays and birthdays. I told her I was alright with letting our children live the life they wanted.
That same year my father laid it on pretty heavy about attending the Memorial. He made it sound like that the talk that year would be different and of special importance. The kids wanted to go so I took them. What a mess.
This was the first Memorial with the new/current songbook. Not only did we not have the right songbook, but the song that opened the Memorial, a usual, had been changed. When the Memorial was over I immediately knew that the talk given was the same old talk I had heard for over 30 years.
The next day I came to the website. My eyes were immediately opened. What I had already suspected was confirmed for me. The Watchtower and its religion, Jehovah's Witnesses, was not "the truth". I have never looked back.