My mum, done with the JW ?

Vivamus

So my mum is about ready to leave the witnesses. I hesitate a bit to write it down like that, just in case I might be cheering too soon, but I do believe it is the case... Yesterday I took a ride with my mum in her car, and the new Yearbook of the JW was on the backseat. So I, all apostate like, picked it up and started reading out loud the jewels given by the GB. My mum, rightly stated that it was just a bunch of propaganda, yah! So, about ten minutes later, she asked me "I wonder if I am about to be disfellowshipped, what do you think". So I asked her if she was in trouble... apparently the brothers have called her several times because they want to visit her, she declined that privilege every time. The brothers use the words "very worried about the latest developments, you are inactive and we are worried about you". She did had an elders visit about two months ago, so it is not just the normal elders visit they want to give her. My mum said "there is nothing I did that they can disfellowship me on" and after a look I gave her with a raised eyebrow, she added "that they know off". Cause my mum does all the JW-god forbade. Anyway, I told her that she could get into trouble, she has been seen walking arm in arm with her apostate, cross wearing, ciggie smoking, tongue pierced, daughter [me] in several public places by the rank and file members of the cong. But none have turned her in so far. But, I warned her, should an elder see her, she might get into real trouble. Her response was that we should go out more than.... She is totally done with it all, she just wants it all out into the open. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but this does sounds like she's way on her way out, isn't it? :)

DanTheMan

That IS good news Viv!

I just love telling people about the JW shunning policy & how it plays out in the day-to-day lives of JW's. You've given me another great example to tell people about - a mom getting DF'd for associating with her DF'd daugher.

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shera

You don't sound wrong to me Viv. Hope things turn out the best for you.

Mum

Viv, that's wonderful!

I agree with you and the others that your Mum is waking up to smell the coffee. I come here to hear such stories. Seeing a person take their first steps toward freedom and self actualization is the most exciting thing in life. Give her my best.

Regards,

SandraC

gumby

Hey Viv,

Thats awesome! I would crap a brick if one of my close family would do the same.

But, I warned her, should an elder see her, she might get into real trouble

Being seen with a DFed person over and over again does not in itself mean that the other could be DFed also. A watchtower article discussed this point and addressed that issue. It said only if someone is...........carrying the banner for the DFed person could this consitute being disfellowshipped. That means if your mother was telling others that the Elders were wrong in DFing you, or you should have never been DFed. In other words your mother would be justifing your innocense in some way ...verbally.

As soon as you mum gets all the way out....I'm flying over there to see her, get her drunk and stoned, then go dancing. You tell her I have dibs on the first dance!

Gumby

teejay

Viv (and all), That's good news. I wonder what made her get on this track she's on. Has she been questioning for a while? And could somebody fill me in on the latest "understanding" when it comes to JWs associating with family members who are df'd, da'd or otherwise doomed to die at Jehovah's loving hands at Armageddon -- right around the corner? I know light has gone off and on in this area, but last I heard (some 10 years ago) a JW in your mom's position wasn't in any trouble.

DanTheMan

Teejay, though it wasn't really new light, I think the August 2002 KM pretty much laid down the law - YOU MUST SHUN!!!

beckyboop

(((((((((((((((((((((Viv)))))))))))))))))))))))))

It sure sounds like your mom is done with all that crap! I hope she's able to realize what they've done to you as well as herself and many others over the years, and that it will be the initiative to get the hell out. Two cents of warning though, it can be a long drawn out road to get out, so what seems one way today may be very different tomorrow. Your love for her though will be what makes the difference in the end. Good luck with everything, and I hope she finds peace soon.

Becky

BadJerry

yup.

LOL at this,

she declined that privilege every time

I thought somewhere that not letting them visit is a red flag and could lead to an announcement.

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berylblue

Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but this does sounds like she's way on her way out, isn't it?

Yes, it does. I'm happy for you both. And by the way, you both sound like a lot of fun, and hats off to her for never shunning you!

Rosemarie

My mum, done with the JW ?

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