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simplesally

So sorry to read this........ Glad my parents are not JW's

The best thing I ever did was after I got df'd, I joined the local Methodist church and got the Pastor to notify my parents. In their eyes now not only was df'd, but now I was an apostate. It meant that they stopped the incesant sending of wt and awakes and books and memeorial invites, and the phone calls stopped all together etc etc...good riddance. Now that was a relief.

StinkyPantz

Thanks for all of your kind words. I've cried about this for two years and I think that now I have some closure and can get on with my life.

Maverick

I cannot imagine kissing off my baby girl, (now 18). Your parents comment that , "They had no choice." sounds a lot like the excuse the German Soldiers made after WWII when asked about all the war atrocities they perpetrated on their victims, "We had no choice, we were following orders." This just shifts the blame to 'someone else'. The J-duds come by this honestly, the Governing Body does the same thing whenever they screw-up. It's the RF's fault or worse implying it is Gods doing and He will make it clear in His good time. The J-duds are taught to be 'little children' and not think for themelves. May you have peace, Maverick

obiwan

Stinky I know what it's like, I have only spoken to my father once since I was df'd in 91. I really would like to know if they are sooo blind to not realize what going on, or after all these years it's jusr easier to go with it than to fight it?

Francois

I'm sorry Stinky. Only people who have been shunned by close family can possibly know how it feels; and it feels like shit. But on account of shunning would I go back to the JWs in order to avoid it? Absolutely no way.

If my family and close friends think so little of me, and so much of an obviously phony religion that they're willing to throw me away, let 'em. That just means they didn't love me like I thought they did.

I didn't weep when my uncle (who was like my brother) began to shun me. But it has sat like a cold, hard stone in my chest for nearly twenty years. I will be so happy when that stone is gone. It's very hard to take.

((((((Stinky))))))

francois

nightwarrior

Stinky

I am so sorry. But all I know is that these so called loving people have a lot to answer for.

I have been shunned now for a month (it feels like longer) and Mr NW even longer by his JW family.

When you think that you are so close to your family and that nothing will ever come between you, and then WHAM, you dare to go against the org. Well all that went before stands for nought.

It is disheartening to say the least, but if that is the way that our families want to act then let them. Lemmins over a cliff.

But know that if you want to chat e-mail me [email protected]

Your friend

Mrs Nightwarrior

Sentinel

Oh Stinky, I'm so sorry for you. To get a visit from your parents, only to "rub it in" more if you don't do things the borg way. After all this time, and they are so rigid, so unmoving.

Problem is, they really believe what they say is the way it is. Truth is, they are so very wrong.

I'm a mom, and to me there is nothing more precious than a mother's love and being able to show and demonstrate that love to her children. The JW's will not allow the natural flow of love among family unless all their rules and regulations are adhered to. They intercept it and intercede in it, and interrupt it. They are damaging families all over the world.

It hurts, but you will be alright. If I know you, you treated them with kindness, but didn't buy into their judgments of you. You behaved in a good and positive way. Sad for them, not to want to associate with a daughter such as you!

teejay

(((((( Stinky ))))))

Sorry you had to go through that with your folks. Like Mav said, there's no way in hell I'd turn my back on my daughter -- no matter WHAT she did. You'll be in my thoughts.

One good thing about threads like these: I point my non-JW friends to them every time. So they can see exactly was JWs are really like. Yeah, they look like wholesome people (and most are) but that f**ked up religion makes them turn their backs on their own flesh and blood. I ask them, "Would you like to be a member?" Guess what the answer ALWAYS is!

I actually feel relieved