disgusting comment made

by SpiceItUp 24 Replies latest jw friends

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  SpiceItUp

  So I'm helping out my mother with her garage sale this weekend. Kinda boring sitting around in the heat (although I can't complain too much since we were in a nice patch of shade and had a decent breeze).

  A "customer" pulls in and my mother quietly whispers to me "Isn't that so-n-so's dad (a dub girl I went to school with). I tell her I remember the girl but have no idea if its her father and tell my mom to ask. She does and sure enough they get talking about dub things as most tend to do. He tells her that his daughter (the one I went to school with) was married for 3 years to the son of a dub that wasn't in the troof. He said this with a heavy sigh. My mom tell him how my sis has been married for 5 years and still doesn't have kids. She then goes on to say that my sister doesnt' really want to have children because "they may grow up out of the troof".

  When she said that I about gagged. It was totally disgusting. I have heard about not starting families due to Armageddon but never because of what may happen 20 years down the line.

  Geez its like shunning before a child is even born.

  Has any one else ever heard of something similiar.
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  rocketman

  I've heard comments over the years about not wanting have kids "in this system" because it's too difficult and there are too many dangers, stuff like that. Of course, their whole mindset is that nothing will succeed outside the troof, so why bother.

  If that is in reality your sis's thinking, then one day she may well look back with regret on a missed opportunity to start a family.
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  JH

  Witnesses do destroy lives, even the ones not yet born.
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  greven

  Fear of producing little apostates eh?

  Weird thinking, like someone saying they do not want kids because they might grow up to be sex craved axe murdering psychotics. I am sure this is some form of paranoia. Makes you winder what kind of paranoia the dubs have not invented yet....

  Greven
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  cruzanheart

  While pregnant with me, my mother made the comment that if I wasn't going to be a "servant of Jehovah" I might as well be born dead.

  Nina
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  Shakita

  When pregnant with my fourth child and feeling mighty sick, I was at a meeting when a brother came up to me and said "Well, these things do happen don't they?" meaning that my pregnancy was a mistake and that he felt sorry for me...........EWWW How dare he presume that my unborn baby was unwanted? I wanted to pop him right there! But, I was so stunned I just stared at him in disbelief that he could be so narrow-minded and RUDE!

  Another sister who was recently married came up to me when I was very largely pregnant and said, "I would never even think of having children in this system of things"....what a dork! This same sister at last count had 2 children that I know of!!!!! Serve her right if they grow up and have children of their own, and children of their own........she just might eat her words!

  Mrs. Shakita
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  SpiceItUp

  It truly is a shame....

  OTOH If thats the way my sis feels then maybe she shouldn't have kids and put them through the horrors of being a dub.

  If she ends up having kids I will do my duty as Aunty to counter her attempts. That way they will at least know that not everyone will turn your backs if you decide to form your own opinions.

  (((((hugs)))))
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  bikerchic

  You know sometimes I wonder if these people ever stop to think of how absolutely unloving and sick their comments sound!

  Although on that note it was exactly comments like these that made me take a look at the JW's when I was pregnant, 5 times in the 70's............the comparrasion to the remarks of joy by my "worldly" relatives gave me a good comparassion to the JW mentality. It always seem mean and unloving to me.\

  Katie discussed with myself for ever being "in"...........gerrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!
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  jgnat

  As an outsider looking in, I have noticed an odd detachment that JW parents have from their children. I wonder if this comes from the ever-present threat of disfellowshipment and separation? The loving mothers I know hug their children often and tell them they will never, never, never leave them. SaintSatan and others mentioned a detachment from intimacy as a way to avoid being hurt.

  Of course, this is from only a few sample families that I have seen. I am sure there are some warm and loving (spiritually weak) mothers in the WTS.
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  onacruse

  In all fairness:

  *** w54 9/15 p. 566 True Love Is Practical ***

  Some, because the battle of Armageddon is so near, might lift their eyebrows and hands in a surge of horror at other brothers and sisters’ getting married these days or at some married sister’s getting pregnant. But is such openly displayed, openly voiced horror based upon the right view and understanding of the Scriptures concerning these last days with Armageddon impending? No.

  *** w63 10/15 p. 640 Questions from Readers ***

  Let it be noted, however, that at Matthew 24:19 Jesus Christ was not discussing the propriety of Christian married couples having children in these last days. Christians today are not under command to have children, but neither are they under a command not to have them. This is a matter to be decided by marriage mates themselves. It is their own business.—Gal. 6:5.

  However, I think most of us have at one time or another experienced quite a different sentiment. I distinctly recall, in 1974, my bride of 2 years thought she was (unexpectedly) pregnant. We were sitting front and center at a circuit assembly, and the DO explicitly said: "Those who are having a family so close to the end demonstrate a lack of faith." It was everything I could do to resist standing up right then and there and screaming at that jerk.

  There may very well be subsequent WT quotes that overtly say this, but right now I'm just too mad to look for any of them.

  Craig