I spoke with an old JW friend on Friday....

by LDH 12 Replies latest jw friends

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  LDH

  I thought you all would enjoy a conversation I had on Friday.

  I was at work, minding my own business, and my phone line rang. It was my sister in Syracuse. She said, "You'll never guess who I'm talking to! Thing #1 and Thing #2!!"

  (Names have been changed to protect the guilty.)

  Me: "No way! lemme say hi!"

  At this point I should interject the fact that my sister rather famously disassociated herself 7 years ago; everyone in the circuit knows it. So the fact that Thing #1 and Thing #2 were even talking to her made me think they were XJWs too! I was excited--we were close friends.

  So anyhow, Thing #1 gets on the phone and we chat briefly, he even says "Hey, when I'm finished talkin to you, my Nigga Thing #2 wants to talk to you, if you remember him!"

  So he says Nigga, now I'm mos def thinking this dude is an XJW. I tell him I've been married almost 5 years, been together for 8 etc etc etc. Tell him to give me his address, I'll send him pictures.

  Here's where it all starts to go downhill. He says, "I still live at home." Mind you, I'm the same age and we own two houses, etc etc. He says, "You'd better not send it under your maiden name, my parents will see it!!!"

  WTF?!?!?!

  Then he continues blithely, "I'm getting married in two years!"

  So, I talk to Nigga #2 for a couple of minutes and then my sister gets back on the phone. I ask her, "Are they still JWs?" She says in the most cheerily fake voice, "Yup! I'll call ya later!"

  So there you have it. The life story of a Gen X-er JW.

  Does anyone really think a 36 year old man is a virgin?

  Lisa

  Never ceases to amaze me, Class
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  teejay

  You right, Lisa.

  They niggahs.
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  LDH

  Boy, if ever I had any doubts about "going back" (I didn't) this dude's reminder of JW adults living at home still under Mommy and Daddy's control is enough to make me barf.

  Is there a *barf* icon?

  Lisa
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  Preston

  You're right Lisa, the whole 'Please don't tell my mommy!' thing is a hoot. Nigga #2 may be able-bodied, and he may not deserve pity from you but--well, I pity Nigga #2. But still, I don't see how anyone can give him marriage advice, because the future wife to be is better off without him in her life, and the mother that comes attached at his hip. Good luck in your arranged marriage, Nigga #2, because you're going to need it!
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  JT

  deep exp, but what i have noticed esp in the last few years is how more and more jw are still jw, but as far as obeying the rules it has become like a joke, an elders wife who is my wife's cousin has told my wife she has no plans whatsoever to stop talking to her dfed sister or turn in her sister who has a baby and living with a man- even her husband who is an elder has not decided to turn in the "fornicators" smile

  and they are not alone , i think more and more jw have such bad relations with the elders they see the gossip, dog folks and just an overall attitude that reflects the org no longer carries the same level of fear, while they still have fear, the level has indeed dropped

  some of you may recall the wt article called DO NOT SHARE IN THE SINS OF OTHERS- it was an article that one of our CO told all the elders in the circuit to work up into a LOCAL NEEDS TALKs- AND TO GIVE IT ON A REG BASIS

  and i used to scare the Hell out of folks, in talking to other elders in the circuit all would tell stories of folks following them to the car to confess, calling them once they got home, or a few days later "COMING CLEAN" or turning someone else in

  CAN YOU SAY RAT ON SOME ONE

  well today i just don't think that young folks and even some old timers are going to come forth to tell on folks the way they did in the old days

  as one bethel instructor told us in elder school back in the 90's IT USED TO BE WHEN THE SOCIETY TOLD THE ELDERS TO JUMP THJEY WOULD SAY HOW HIGH BUT NOW THEY ASK WHY?/
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  lauralisa

  Wow
  
  Lisa it is good to see a post from you.
  
  One time I was in a restaurant in Baltimore. I was married at that time (briefly!) to a freakish like man. We overheard some people talking at the next table... calling each other the N word.
  
  I told them I objected to them using the "N" word.
  
  They looked at me like I was asking to be disemboweled.
  
  The ex-husband almost tied the tablecloth around my face.
  
  Isn't it interesting how I am not offended by your (and Teejay and JT and Preston's) use of the N word... but I was offended while at the restaurant. Actually, I wish you guys would NOT use that word, because actually, I can not even remember what the issue is that is being discussed...
  
  Is that not interesting? Probably not.
  
  Regardless.... I've missed, you, LDH and teejay...
  
  huh?
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  bluesapphire

  LOL This is hilarious and sad at the same time. Do I laugh or do I cry? O brother....
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  rocketman

  JT, at my first elder's school, that's exactly what the speaker said "when the Society says jump, we say..... how high?" That's when I realized I didn't belong there.
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  asleif_dufansdottir

  what i have noticed esp in the last few years is how more and more jw are still jw, but as far as obeying the rules it has become like a joke,

  I am beginning to think the only ones who are JWs anymore are those who ignore the rules, or follow them only when it's convenient...like arguing with 'apostates' on internet message boards despite XJWs repeatedly pointing out that they aren't "supposed" to be there.

  Those of us who tried our damndest to toe the line and who got sick watching the rules get bent into a pretzel or just plain ignored, got burned out or just figured out "Jehovah's clean organization" and its rhetoric about keeping the congregation clean, was just a lie and got the heck out.

  People who actually have high moral standards probably woke up and got out when the UN and/or pedophile news hit the fan.
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  LDH

  Blue,

  EXACTLY!!!!

  Laura, nice to see you too. But, I was not the one that used the Nigger word. It was these two supposed JWs. LOL. What a riot.

  JT, when I got df'd at 20 (and reinstated four months later, LOL, what a joke) I was asked by all three elders (Bill Brigden, Paul Reed, and Art Burdick) whether I knew of wrongdoing on the part of other youngsters in the congregation. They told me my 'willingness to cooperate' would indicate whether I was repentent.

  So, of course I believed the shit and I told what I knew (which wasn't much, frankly) and then come to find out, every one I 'ratted on' lied and nothing ever happened to them. LOL, including one of the elders daughters who was carrying on an affair flat out lied about it. LOL, I shoulda known then, it's not what you do---it's what you admit to doing.

  Because, really, I'm wondering *WHO* in their right mind really thinks this 36 year old man who grew up 'in da troof' is a virgin?!?!? He's never had any judicial action taken against him.....so he's either slick as goose shit and has never been caught; or he's a really good liar. Either option is scary.

  And can you imagine that wedding? Yet another Central New York "Bring a dish to pass" soiree! RSVP! We'll hold the shower at the 4-H center! and the reception will be at the Volunteer Fire House or the local "grange" hall. GAWD, I'm laughing just thinking of it.

  Lisa