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LP_gurl

Thanks everyone. I must say this was better advice than other forums have given me. Mind you, most of the forums consisted of only born again christians, who tend to have many issues with JW's. There's 2 sides to Bob, the devote JW side and the actual person side. I'll keep talking to him if he'll let me, but will keep it at being friends. It's just hard to see someone you care about lose themselves in a false organization.

hillary_step

LP_gurl,

Just ask Bob whether he would miss a JW meeting for you. It sorts out loyalties very quickly.

Best regards - HS

LP_gurl

Well he's missed meetings before because he slept in and was too tired....so I dunno. *shrugs* I'll havta ask him and see. :p

Pleasuredome

hi LP-gurl

welcome to the board.

you said that it would make things easy to convert to his religion. wouldnt it be just as easy for him to convert to yours, if you have one? he may be delighted to have you become a JW, but i can assure you that you'd have no cance the other way around.

i've just come out of the JWs. there are many issues, such as paedophile protection, and as we see tonight, not partaking of the bread and wine which a true christian should do.

basicaly religious orgs are there for control and manipulation in pursuit of wealth. my advice is to keep well clear, it'll all end in tears otherwise.

hillary_step

LP_Gurl,

Well he's missed meetings before because he slept in and was too tired....so I dunno. *shrugs* I'll havta ask him and see. :p

I know this sounds rather strange to somebody who is not a Jehovah's Witness, but he has missed meetings for himself, *not* for you. He had good reason as he was feeling under the weather. If you ask him to miss meeting for *you* it will trigger a crisis of loyalty between what he percieves as his loyalty to 'God' or his loyalty to a human. A sensless logic, but one which most of us on this Board were prepared to defend to the death at some stage in our lives. HS

onacruse

Hi, LP, and welcome to the forum

I agree with the comments above...you're only 18, Bob's only 19, you've never met, he's involved with a high-control cult, and you (apparently) already have doubts about having a successful long term relationship with him.

That combination should be the biggest red flag you've ever seen in your life.

Give it time, and time will tell.

Craig

Buster

Yunno, sometimes we do some good around here. It is very much our priviledge to give you a heads up on you new 19-yr-old-J-dub friend's religion. You're already suspicious so I doubt you'll go much furhter with this guy. But tell you what, keep chatting with him. Get his opinions on things that most people should be concerned with, things like advanced schooling, community volunteering, plans for the future. If you take your time and listen closely, I think you'll be stunned by how much separatism and judgementalism has been drummed into his head.

Good luck.

LP_gurl

Thanks buster. I've already started to realize that. It's really odd b/c it really seems like there's the two seperate people living in one body. He's an awesome person when he's just Bob, but as soon as he's Bob the JW, it's a different story. He's still my best friend, so it's not like I'll never talk to him again, that's kinda out of the question. But anyways, I do have a date with a guy named Steve tomorrow, so wish me luck. ;o)

Gopher

Please reassure me that STEVE is not a JW too... Naaaah.. you wouldn't !!

LP_gurl

lol no. Steve actually went to bible college and has a brain that can think for itself.

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