Another Frustrating Phone Conversation

teenyuck

My mother just phoned. She just wanted to say "HI"....supposedly.

Everytime she calls, she asks if I am happy and how my life is. I tell her everything is fine.

Her--How is your husband?

Me--Fine

Her--How is his job; is he happy?

Me--Yes, everything is fine

Her--Any news you need to tell me?

Me--No....everything is the same

Her--So your marriage is OK?

Me--What the heck are you getting at and/or implying? Everytime you phone you ask me these questions. Are you expecting me to say "everything sucks and my husband beats me?"

Her--Oh, no...I just wanted to let you know I love you.

Me-Well, I lead a normal, everyday, boring life. I work, pay my taxes, go out to dinner once in a while and watch movies on the weekends. Nothing new. I am not getting divorced.

Her--Oh, I didn't mean to imply.....

Me--Yes you did. You have asked these questions for years and frankly I am sick of it.

Her--Oh, well lets change the subject. So whats new? (I am now annoyed and want to yelll)

Me--Nothing is new. Oh, I am volunteering for Breast Cancer research. I am going to sign people up for "Walk for the Cure" and donate $10.00 and walk 1 mile. The event gets about 30,000 people here in Columbus and this is the first year for me. I am glad I can do something to help. Would you like to donate $10.00 to breast cancer research?

Her--Errrr......No.

Me--Why? All women will gain when breast cancer is eradicated.

Her--No. I just won't. I don't give to charity.

Me--Oh, that is too bad. It is sad you won't give for something to save people's lives.

Her--I have to go. Bye. CLick

I at least got her annoyed. I called her on the carpet for being a cheap SOB.

I am so pissed that she is my mother. I truly dislike her. She is the worst kind of JW and mother. She is a hypocrite on so many things....yet she is self-righteous and superior. I don't know if others have this problem. I seem to be the only one with no respect for my parent.

I knew she would never donate to something like this. I also know she pays very little tax, hence my comment about my paying my taxes.

I know I have written about her before. I can't stand her.

DJ

Aren't we chipper today? Seriously teenyuk, I can relate in many ways. I do not have a particular 'like' for my mom's personality either....but I love her. Atleast she calls you. It is her beliefs that molded her. It is a shame that we don't know what our parent's would be like w/o the borg influence. The charity thing always irks me to no end! By the way, I don't think that she'll ever ask those questions again. I think it will be a while before she calls again too.....you grump.......lol

rocketman

Teeny, I am sorry to hear that there is tension between your mom and yourself. I do recall reading about her not long ago, and this is a good place to vent some of the frustration you obviously have with your mom.

I do hope that one day soon things will improve.

I found it interesting that she said she does not donate to charity, although it seems unclear whether or not it was for religious reasons. I think many jws think they cannot donate to any charities, which is a mistaken assumption even from the jw standpoint.

Take care.

dedalus

Hey Teenyuck,

I used to have conversations like that with my mother all the time. Turned out she was a lesbian. She eventually realized it and left the organization and is perfectly wonderful now.

Here's hoping you're mom's a lesbian too,

Dedalus

teenyuck

{{{DJ, rocketman, dedalus}}}

Thanks for letting me vent. It does help. I don't think my mom would give to charity regardless of the WT stance. I do think she believes she would be upholding the Giant Beast somehow.

These calls are so silly. She is fishing for bad information. She wants to hear things are bad. Knowing her agenda, I would never trust her with any information. I don't trust her.

I think she wanted to invite me to the memorial, however, I threw her off course with my breast cancer stuff.

Thanks again for listening.

I hope she is a lesbian. I think she would really lighten up! (tension release and all--) Besides, she really seems to dislike men...

teenyuck

I guess I did sound a little pissy, however, in her tone is the unasked....She really is looking for bad info. Every time she calls, she askes these questions. All revolving around my husband.

wheelwithinwheel

I sure can relate. When we first faded, my mom kept asking about my wife. Some conversations she'd ask how she was doing 3 or 4 times. She believed she had the fading problem all figured out. She is totally disinterested in anything that doesn't have a theocratic ring. If we do get into any subject she always manages to mention that things are sure getting worse in Satan's old system. If I do mention some personal point, I'm told to watch out what could happen. So my phone calls pretty much mirror yours. We do get to talk about the weather though.

Donations and charity – ha! That’s supporting Satan's old system and everybody knows none of the money ever gets to the persons who really need it anyway. The WT taught JW's to be old stingys, maybe they're regretting it since they brought in the donation arrangement.

ChakkaConned

I have grown to hate the constant and various questions asked me by witnesses. It's usually not a real interest in you personally but a way to get info about your life so they can create *personalized* strategy in their theocratic warfare. They want you to believe they care with such questioning but I found them to be just nosy and intrusive as hell. I try to always be vague and turn it around and start asking them questions.

Teenyuck.....I can relate to the problems you have with your mom. Have you ever looked into any information about narcissistic parents? One sign is when a child(even as an adult) feels and has always felt "motherless". I have always felt that way about my mom. If anyone was the mother, is was me in our relationship. Might be interesting to look into.

CC

dedalus

Besides, she really seems to dislike men...

There you go!

I guess I did sound a little pissy ...

You had a right to be. She calls you hoping for bad news, practically begging for you to have an awful life. How offensive, especially considering she's your mother! And her haughty derision of charities is absolutely maddening.

Dedalus

Robdar

(((((((((Teenyuck))))))))

Love,

Robyn

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