That;s what my wife (and all JW's) gets to hear about us at the Kingdom Hall today, (hmmmm, I wonder if she'll raise her hand to answer this one) ...
Watchtower study ..
Today, apostates and others who create divisions in the congregation use “smooth talk and flattering speech.” (Romans 16:17, 18) They may pretend to care about others, but in reality, they are selfish.
(The Watchtower - Study Edition (Simplified Version) 10/17 Page 4 paragraph 7)