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by Disassociated Lady 2 23 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Gulf Coaster

  It's all very "high school", like they think they're the cool group or the Mean Girls and you're the outcast nerd. I left that when I graduated HS in 1979 and tend to stay away from any person or group who still hangs onto that juvenile behaviour.

  By going back, they'll smugly think you're "coming crawling back" to them because you believe it's the troof, thereby pumping up their already delusionally grand opinion of themselves & their cult. They're not worth knowing or wasting your time on. Best way to get back at them is to make a successful, happy life for yourself.
  
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  Crazyguy

  Going back gives them power over you or at least they and everyone in the congregation will think so. Move on with your life and think of this as just a bad experience. Go join some loving group or even a non denominational church that doesn't judge you on your looks your clothing and your personality.
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  Disassociated Lady 2

  Hi Finkelstein:

  You asked "I was just wondering how you got DFed in just matter of months".

  I got reinstated in March after being out 26 years. My Dad died last year and I promised him I would go back. My husband and I divorced in 2012 and I would have been homeless if a friend had not taken me into her home. I am still living there and the elders wanted me to move out as she is a Witch/Wisewoman. They said they would not have reinstated me had they known exactly who the lady was. Anyway I cannot afford to move out and get a place of my own, not them or my JW family offered me any help, so they disfellowshipped me. :-( x
  
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  Disassociated Lady 2

  Thank you for your thoughts everyone :-) x
  
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  Giordano

  I remember your story and the decent and wise women who has been a help to you.

  Time to elevate your thinking. I was reading about the principles/beliefs of Wiccans the other day. https://wicca.com/celtic/wicca/wicca.htm

  Not a bad philosophy.

  You should reflect on whatever principles that you intend to live by.

  The JW's have to shun out of fear, their love is conditional, they have become the least educated religion in any first world country.

  So I agree with the advice given.
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  Finkelstein

  Sorry to hear for your unfortunate circumstances, I'm shocked that they would Df someone merely because of the personal behavior or character of another to whom you are living with ????
  

  What is exactly is a Witch/Wisewoman, is she an Dfed JWS ?

  If so I've never heard of someone getting Dfed simply because of them living under the same roof of a person who is DFed ?
  

  Why cant you find a job and move out on your own then ?
  
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  Daniel1555

  When I see one of the JWs I know, I smile and say Hi!

  They have to react in a second so I laugh inside how they are behaving, not knowing if they should greet or not.

  Then I am happy to be truly free. I breathe in and feel happy, also never ever to attend one of their meetings.

  I wish you all the best... being free to live according to your conscience.
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  Worldling9

  There will be opportunities to stick it to 'em should you choose to do so...I wouldn't seek them out though. Just enjoy your life. They can't seem to enjoy theirs.
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  FayeDunaway

  There are only so many weekends and such little free time that each one of us has in life. Why waste any of it where you don't REALLY want to be? Let them have their petty stupid thoughts about you. Move on with your life, they will stay stuck in their own little prisons, but you can move on.
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  Gulf Coaster

  I got reinstated in March after being out 26 years. My Dad died last year and I promised him I would go back. My husband and I divorced in 2012 and I would have been homeless if a friend had not taken me into her home. I am still living there and the elders wanted me to move out as she is a Witch/Wisewoman. They said they would not have reinstated me had they known exactly who the lady was. Anyway I cannot afford to move out and get a place of my own, not them or my JW family offered me any help, so they disfellowshipped me.
  

  You are a good person with a beautiful heart. You went back for your dad. That was a huge sacrifice, which I'm not sure I could have made myself. You did it because you loved your dad. You did it. He's gone, content he was going to see you again in the new system, or whatever their fantasy is called. Done. That's all that counts. All those other pathetic, back-stabbing, brainwashed, nobody-to-you narcissists .... pfft! Why waste your time on them? Have a wonderful life away from that stinking cesspool of a toxic environment.