Hi Steel,
Probably, your situation is not unique among Jehovah's Witnesses today.
This is because Jehovah's Witnesses are under special punishment and discipline from God for their practice of sin, particularly their wicked secret affiliation with the United Nations Organization as NGO supporters during the 1990s...up to the year of 2001 when this situation was made public. This action on their parts proved to be a serious sin to God, a covenant-breaker in fact and one where they must be severely punished by Jehovah, and which will ultimately result in the complete destruction of this people as a religious organization, as foretold by Bible prophecy.
In fact, this situation has all been summarized long ago in a publication called the "Report".
See Link to publication: The "Report" Book
Because of this great sin on the part of organization leadership, In time, the Watchtower Society Organization with its Governing Body will be revealed to all as being the wicked "Man of Lawlessness" and the organization leadership staff itself being the fulfillment of "Babylon The Great" of Bible prophecy because of this situation and other acts of wickedness. -- See 2 Thess. 2:3-12; Revelation 18:2-4.
See Article and Link: Jehovah's Witnesses Are In Apostasy!
There are many prophecies in the bible that show this to be the immediate future for Jehovah's Witnesses.
This spiritual condition will continue to be the case and even worsen, until a smaller group of them (called the "Male Child" Rev. 12:5 and "Four Angels bound at the Euphrates" Rev 9.13, 14), finally recognize that it is really Jehovah God Himself that is punishing them, and they are finally willing to repent and willingly break from this apostate organization, and form a newer, refined spiritual group of servants of Jehovah, who will ultimately give proper spiritual leadership to the world, with God's Blessing. -- Isaiah 30:26; Jeremiah 23:20; Micah 4:6,7.
What you described above in your wife, is a Jehovah's Witness who has been totally stripped of God's Holy Spirit, as has been the case with the entire world wide organization, where Jesus, as Head of the Christian Congregation, has completely "removed their lampstand from its place," completely depriving it from receiving any of God's Holy Spirit. (See Rev. 2:5) Because of this condition, many of them (JWs) are now acting as spiritual "zombies" ... walking around aimlessly, with no spiritual direction in life at all. The same is true of the JW Organization. Many now show no interest in discussing the bible or having spiritual discussions at all with other people, OUTSIDE of the Kingdom Halls. Indeed, many JWs are now showing signs to be spiritually dead, spiritual "zombies" ... for all to see. Jehovah God and Jesus Christ, has done this to them, for their wickedness. -- See Isaiah 6:9, 10; John 12:39, 40
... Hope this helps.
Observer1217