ENOUGH IS ENOUGH:
The OP certainly has a point and I agree with your post.
You are especially right that they use those JWs who suffered physically, emotionally or economically as examples to shame other people in the religion. This never swayed me and I don’t think it swayed the smarter older people in the hall. You didn’t see them suffering or doing without!.. Nah, that was for some other fool.
I remember the stories recounted about what Witnesses went through during WWII. These people were made to sound saintly. There was a lot of talk of being thrown in jail during the great tribulation and having to share your crust of bread! The point to all this as far as I was concerned was they were trying to get people in the congregation accustomed to the idea that they were going to have to suffer and endure things and that they had to be ready to ‘give’.
There was also an arrogant vibe that I picked up on from mostly older people there (who are gone now). They really did imagine that other people were going sacrifice for them.
Of course I observed all this but I never really took this to heart that I would ever do any of this.. I was the young person who didn’t pioneer and got knocked for working.