How many witnesses are aware that technically, according to Watchtower policy, they can if they wish too...associate with dissociated and disfellowshipped relatives. For all those who are dissociated or disfellowshipped, please share this with your relatives who are currently shunning you. There is nothing the elders can do as long as they are not discussing spiritual matters. The worst that can happen is they lose some privileges, but will not face a judiciary.
Here is what is written on their website jw.org
Can a Person Resign From Being One of Jehovah’s Witnesses?
Yes. A person can resign from our organization in two ways:
By formal request. Either orally or in writing, a person can state his decision that he no longer wants to be known as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses.
By action. A person can take an action that places him outside our worldwide brotherhood. (1 Peter 5:9) For example, he might join another religion and make known his intention to remain part of it.—1 John 2:19.
What if a person no longer preaches or attends your meetings? Do you view that person as having resigned?
No, we do not. Resigning, or disassociating oneself, is different from becoming weak in faith. Often, those who for a time slow down or stop in their worship have not abandoned their faith but are suffering from discouragement. Rather than shunning such ones, we try to give them consolation and support. (1 Thessalonians 5:14;Jude 22) If the person wants help, congregation elders take the lead in providing spiritual assistance.—Galatians 6:1;1 Peter 5:1-3.
However, the elders are not authorized to coerce or pressure someone to remain as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. Each person makes his own choice regarding religion. (Joshua 24:15) We believe that those who worship God must do so willingly, from the heart.—Psalm 110:3;Matthew 22:37.
Now here is what Watchtower policy says in the elders secret handbook...Shepherd the flock of God:
'If members of the congregation are known to have undue association with disfellowshipped or disassociated relatil'es who are not in the household, elders should counsel and reason with those members of the congregation from the Scriptures. Review with them information from the "God's Love" book, pages 207-208; The Watchtower of April 15, 1988. pages 26-30; or the article "Display Christian Loyalty When a Relative Is Disfellowshipped" in the August 2002 Our Kingdom Ministry. If it is clear that a Christian is violating the spirit of the disfellowshipping decree in this regard and does not respond to counsel, it may be that he would not qualify for congregation privileges, which require one to be exemplary. He would not be dealt with judicially unless there is persistent spiritual association or he openly criticizes the disfellowshipping decision'