A message from Barbara Anderson re: the health state of her hero, her husband, Joe Anderson
by jwleaks 18 Replies latest jw friends
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jwleaks
From Barbara:My dear husband, Joe Anderson, has had very real problems with his short-term memory for at least a year which really worried me. As his mental health deteriorated, I decided to have our local longtime physician talk alone with Joe during an office visit last September. The doctor told me afterwards that he believed that Joe had dementia. By November, Joe's long-term memory was fading. As his condition worsened, I was his sole caregiver and life was hectic and complicated and would never be the same again for both of us.Due to the rapid decline of his mental health, on Jan. 22nd, Joe had a CT scan of his brain at the local hospital and was diagnosed with frontal lobe dementia. The scan showed severe brain atrophy and also severe microvascular disease, conditions causing his agitation, confusion, delirium and delusions, etc.As his condition worsened it was impossible for him to remain at home. On January 23rd, a bed was found for Joe in the senior psych. ward at St. Thomas Hospital in Nashville, TN for further diagnosis and to determine what kind of medication he should receive. In the hospital, he has a full-time sitter with him to prevent injury from falls. In the near future when his doctors release him, he'll go to a nursing home for as long as he lives which might not be too long in that he's already in the third and final phase or stage of dementia.At this point Joe doesn't receive visitors or phone calls because he has trouble communicating. I talk to the floor nurse each day since he went into the hospital to find out how he's doing. Some of the medicine given to him now is helping to keep him calm and noncombative.We have been married for 65 years, very happy years, I might add. He's had a long and interesting life of 90 years. I miss him terribly and have shed many tears over the situation, but I know he's in good hands and soon he will go to his rest as we all have to do.Barbara -
Balaamsass2
We are so sorry to hear this news Barbara. You and Joe have given so much to so many. Please hang in there.
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Slidin Fast
Hi Barbara,
as one who has followed your contribution over many years my heart goes out to you. You and Joe have been steadfast advocates of truth against “the truth” and have improved countless lives.
We have experienced this kind of illness in our family and whilst nobody can really know how it’s been for you but I do get it.
You have given all you have to uncovering hard facts over the years and just as much to caring for Joe.
Thank you for all that you’ve done. Try to smile about the good times and be happy about what you have accomplished together. You did good.
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Sea Breeze
Sorry to hear about that Barbara. Sounds like you all were a dream couple. Thanks for all the work you all have done.
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Phizzy
I am so sorry to hear this sad news Barbara, I know exactly what it is like for the Love of your Life to contract Dementia. My darling wife was diagnosed with a form of Alzheimer's about seven years ago, I nursed her at home until she passed away in August last year. Until she drew her last breath, as I told her I had loved her since I was seven years old !
That I was able to do so, to nurse her at home, and was assured it was the very best thing for her, was a comfort and a rare blessing for people in our situation. I was also lucky that her memory was not badly affected, short term yes, but she never lost her long term memory, again because she had a rare form of the disease.
She had difficulty in constructing a sentence quite often during her last year, but was always able to make me understand what she needed, and was trying to say.
Please convey to your lovely Joe our thanks for the work he did along with you for all that time.
Please make sure you get all the support you need in the future, that is important for you.
Love, Hugs and Thanks to you and Joe.
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wannaexit
Hi Barbara, I am so saddened by this news. Stay strong. Love to you and Joe. You and Joe were very instrumental during my "awakening" many years ago.
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ukpimo
My dear Barbara, my heart goes out to you. You stand as a pillar of strength and courage in the midst of persecution from Jehovah’s Witnesses. May you receive comfort at this very difficult time. What a beautiful wife you have been to Joe, and what a beautiful husband he has been to you. From the bottom of our hearts, the exjw community and victims of CSA within this corrupt organization are indebted to you. We owe you everything, and yet you are as ordinary victims of injustice as we are. So we pray for your healing as you endure this present difficulty.
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Biahi
Sorry to hear this, Barbara. Dealing with someone with dementia is never easy, and requires a great deal of patience. So glad to hear that you and Joe had 65 happy years together. Stay strong, and know that both of you have been stellar human beings! You both have helped so many. I wish I lived near you, because my specialty is bringing meals to those who need them. Hugs and prayers to you! 🙏🏻
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Vidiot
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carla
I'm so sorry Barb, wishing you love and strength though this ordeal.