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ChrisVance

Have those of you who, like myself, have been cut off by family because of the troof thought what you'd do if a family member asked for your help? At this point it seems like it would be easy just to tell them to get help from jehovah, but I suppose if one of them truly needed help I might feel differently.

Brummie

I'd help them without a doubt. But you know they wouldnt ask anyway, too rightous to talk to ex members, too stubborn, too proud, too bad.

Brummie

onacruse

Hi Chris; it was a pleasure chatting with you tonight

I'd like nothing better than to help any of my JW family, in any way I could, at any time.

Love is as love does.

Craig

ChrisVance

Brummie,

But you know they wouldnt ask anyway

I think if money were involved my family wouldn't hesitate to demand help.

Onacruse, enjoyed chatting also.

onacruse

Chris, I DID say I was going to bed, didn't I? Dangitallanyway, this board is just too compelling! LOL

Craig

Prisca

If someone who hadn't spoken to me for the past 10 years appeared out of the blue, asking for money, I'd say no. If I haven't been worthy of their time over that time, why do they turn up out of the blue asking me for anything?

Sorry, I know it sounds cold-hearted, but I don't allow myself to be walked over. If it was someone that was in regular contact with me, sure. But not if they had shunned me for the past X number of years.

ChrisVance

Prisca, I agree with what you said. It's been my intention to do just that. If I don't exist when they don't need help, then I don't exist when they do.

Charmed

I think I would help. Partly because, I want to be able to say that I always took the high road and tried to recover the relationship. Partly because I would hope that my helping would soften their hearts again. And partly because I'd want to demonstrate for them clearly what unconditional love really is.

TR

I would help, but NO money, and only if the 'hovah would agree to admit the WT policy on shunning is wrong.

TR

Billygoat

Prisca,

If someone who hadn't spoken to me for the past 10 years appeared out of the blue, asking for money, I'd say no. If I haven't been worthy of their time over that time, why do they turn up out of the blue asking me for anything?
Sorry, I know it sounds cold-hearted, but I don't allow myself to be walked over. If it was someone that was in regular contact with me, sure. But not if they had shunned me for the past X number of years.

As much as I wished I would have the strength to turn them away, I don't know if I could.

I think I would help. Partly because, I want to be able to say that I always took the high road and tried to recover the relationship. Partly because I would hope that my helping would soften their hearts again. And partly because I'd want to demonstrate for them clearly what unconditional love really is.

I think I would probably do this same thing with these same hopes. But showing by example rational behavior to IRrational people and expecting them to appreciate it, is insanity. Okay. I don't know what I'd do. *fat sigh* Andi

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