Hello Larry,
I just saw this thread, and wanted to add my well wishes to you and your children....and my condolences for the loss of your mate. To lose a beloved in such a horrible way just adds more sorrow.
A best friend of mine killed themself the same way.....his wife was the one who found him (and he knew she would)....and she tried as you did - to lift and release him. A horrible mess.
With all the other pressing matters - please make sure to take time to find a little peace in your heart too.
waiting