I read her book and I couldn't put it down, the similarities to the JW life regarding how the church controls and judges the followers is incredible. I too recommend the book. It also shows that once you see the lies of the church and realize that you've been following a bullshit cult, you still try to justify that your church life wasn't a total waste.
I went through the same feelings, I give her a couple more years and then she will realize that the cult was absolutely a total waste, just as I realized it eventually with the Watchtower.