I was pulled in the backroom for sneaking cheerios in my pocket for my 2 year old. "disrespecting the kingdom hall, etc..."
When I left an abusive marriage and elder told me, "I have left bruises on my wife and she stays." Another said, "you have to be careful which nationality you marry into. Our sisters in the Middle East endure far more abuse than you and stay faithful."
That was my cue to leave.