by JH 34 Replies latest jw friends
Never wanted any.
Never had any.
Never will (tubes tied).
I like kids OK, but I'm not that crazy about them, and don't think you should have them unless you just can't live without them (I knew too many people who had them because they couldn't think of anything better to do).
I think that for everybody the number is different. I have four myself and think that five would be over the top. Two kids one for each hand is managable. Three is challenging, four is even more so. I am the eldest of five myself. You never really know until your there and you make do with your situation. What's good for one is not good for all. The most important thing is knowing what is good for you, because once a child enters your life there's no turning back. It's one of those lifetime kind of things.
I don't know if I ever want to have kids....I think to myself, why bother? Why go through all that heartache, trying times, fights, teenage years, paying for marriages, college, marital strain for nothing. What if the kid turns out to be a criminal or just an asshole, no matter how you raise them? I think I'd rather not answer the question and just be a selfish, happy couple, living into old age in peace and passionate love for my wife. Kids just always seem to muck up the works, in almost every relationship I've personally witnessed, both as a JW and now.....who knows, if we had a kid we could get lucky....or not.
ash
Geeze, Ashi, good thing I didn't think like you or you would never have been born.
Everything in life is a gamble, Ash. I, for one, am glad that I gambled (and won) four times over. Nothing in life can compare to the birth of your own child....no vacation, no job......nothing.
Just a thought from a Mom who is hoping to have a grandchild to cuddle and love one day!
Mrs. Shakita
Just a thought from a Mom who is hoping to have a grandchild to cuddle and love one day!
HA! LOL
ash
Just a thought from a Mom who is hoping to have a grandchild to cuddle and love one day!
You know...my husband cured my dad and the rest of my parents' church from asking when we were going to have a baby. When the 15th little old lady asked when we were going to have a baby, he replied (at a church function, in front of my dad), "We're still practicing."
We have 5 sons, ranging in age from 26 down to 7. We're happy with them, would have been nice to have had a daughter, I think.
The years have been hard sometimes but enjoyable. Having kids meant using a big portion of time and money for them. We couldn't do things that our no kid friends, or friends with kids grown up could do. We have some of the most wonderful and humorous memories to look back on. It will seem lonely when I can have a really clean and orderly home and the sound of children's voices or cartoons playing won't be heard everyday.
Sadie5
3 is too many....... speaking from experience here.
If you have one,,,,,,, no fights......you know who broke the vase etc.
If you have three,,,,,,,,you never know who did what......they always fight over who gets the front seat, the last piece of chicken, and two always gang up on one and the fighting gets worse,,,,,,,hehe.
The middle child is always jealous of the older child for having all the privleges and hates the baby for being the baby and getting his way all the time.
one
I am one of 5, although the oldest passed away at age 3. The four of us have all married, all have families, step families, it can be great at Thanksgiving (yes my JW parents come to the Thanksgiving feast.) As a matter of fact, I am going to the annual family reunion of my cousin at the end of June. I simply call it "The Redneck Reunion", because that's what it is!
