I know of 13 jw's who have been sexually abused.
When I went through treatment for alcoholism were told one out of six is sexually abused. Thats including male and female.
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How Many Do YOU Know That Were Molested?
by minimus 24 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse
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refiners fire
I dont know any molested, but i know a few who were / are molestors. Theyre mainly ex dubs Ive met thru anti cult or "ex dub" meetups.
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nilfun
Too many, and in those cases, I never understood how the grown-ups that were "in the know" didn't want to report the offenders to the proper authorities.
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refiners fire
Nil. Perhaps those who know someone who was / is a molestor have been told things in confidence and under a trust scenario. To betray a confidence might be percieved as immoral by that one.
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nowisee
personally i have known none until i came here; and my heart cries over the stories i have heard. i have been sickened and deeply saddened over them.
i know my ex-husband was guilty of improprieties, and i know that he was attracted to very young girls. i am not sure he ever acted out his fantasies, but then, i was gone.
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nilfun
I understand, I don't believe in betraying a confidence either.
But are there children that are in danger from this person?
I am just speaking from my experience, how I could never understand how angry the bigs get when they think you're gonna tell. Even when they aren't the ones doing it.
I hope I didn't come across as judgmental, RefinersFire--I don't know what your situation is. I just don't understand not turning in someone who is sexually abusing kids.
i know a few who were / are molestors.
Are they actively molesting kids now? *shudder*
Well, I don't know what to say.
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minimus
I'm saddened to see that some here have experienced molestation. I want you to appreciate that there are many persons that read these threads and can feel your pain because they KNOW what you're going through. My respect and admiration is with all of those that post on this subject.
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bikerchic
Personally I've known dozens. Some were JW's with the abuser being an active member in the congo even years later. Some were worldly people I knew. It adversely affected everyone I knew that had been abused. John Bradshaw in his book Healing The Shame That Binds You hits the nail on the head when he refers to the abusers as "soul murders".
I know of an elder who molested his little sister when they were quiet young. Years later when he was up for appointment of elder and she was married with her own young girls she started having memories.....she spoke to the elders about it. Her brother didn't get his appointment, then........he's been an elder for 10 years or more now. His family from his mother to his own wife has decades of incess throughout it. They seem to think it's normal and these are some of the elders we trust our most intimate personal troubles or spiritual welfare with. Makes me wonder if the inmates are running the asylum.
When I first came to this websight I also went to the Silentlambs and read stories, it broke my heart to hear that these things didn't only go on in the small community of JW's I was in but it goes on world wide. It was one of the things that really got me to thinking about the WTS and it wasn't long before I knew I didn't want anything to do with an organization that covered up wrong doing at the expense of peoples lives. What a shameful, shameful thing to be doing. They are soul murders too IMHO. If there is a god and a day of reconing the WTS has much to answer for.
Katie (of the I'll go back when pigs fly class)
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Aztec
I know one. My aunt was molested by her uncle.
~Aztec
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DazedAndConfused
I know of 4, all of which are in my immediate family. Three females and one male.
Two of the females were abused (or touched) by their grandfathers. Different men in different generations in different (maternal/paternal) sides of the family.
The male was abused by at least one "brother" and propositioned (approached?) by another brother (a pioneer).
The other female was abused by a Judge in a small town.
It is so sad to see the pain and suffering not to mention the things it does to ones mind forever when a person is abused as a child. It is sad (sadder?) when an organization set up to help people are also the same organization that causes so much pain by a lack of action.