Hey Rebel:
You have quite a dilema going on.
Only you can weigh all the responses you have gotten. Alot of concerned support here on the forum.
Since some of us have been raised as J.W.'s the losses (family and friends) may feel too much to bear if you were disfellowshipped abruptly. If this is your case I too would try to stall them, to give your system time to catch up to the "new truths" you have learned that aren't J.W. teachings. Time to let your heart catch up to your mind or vice versa.
If you have friends and family, who are not J.W.'s, then you have to weigh out as to why you need to stop a disfellowshipping from going through or better yet, you take the control away from them and disassociate yourself.
Only you know how you are feeling and where you are emotionally inside.
Special K