Lyin: I know how supportive the dubs are in times like these. I want to say I can't believe they were so ruthless as to df her when she was trying to heal, but I know better. I am glad you have read some of it. I was healing for me (((((Hugzzzz)))))) sweetie
Adult children of alcholics/drugs,,,,,,,,how did you heal?
by LyinEyes 14 Replies latest jw experiences
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garybuss
Children of Witnesses have the same symptoms as children of alcoholics and addicts. We had the same kind of a dysfunctioning family as any other kind of addiction. Many of us choose our parent's drug of choice or substitute our own. The easiest way for us to deny our own symptoms is to closely follow the paths of our parents. Many of us return to their path in times of stress.
Until we admit we are flawed and face the challenge of a rational recovery, we fight and flounder. Someday someone will write a book called Adult Children Of Witnesses and lay it all out for us. So far, many counselors do not really know how to deal with us. Especially are they baffled if we do not identify with traditional addictions that they understand like alcoholism, eating disorders, drug addiction, or gambling. GaryB -
willyloman
Until we admit we are flawed and face the challenge of a rational recovery, we fight and flounder.
Gary: Man, that's profound. Yes, a book for Adult Children of JW's would be godsend to many. I found it easier to quit drinking.
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RAYZORBLADE
I somehow thought, along with a few other issues, that joining the JWs would help me deal with my father's excessive alcohol abuse and my mother's abandonment of myself and my brothers.
In retrospect, I guess at 13, I took solace in whatever I could grasp: oddly enough, it was the JWs.
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garybuss
Ray, I think for many of us, our solutions became our problems, no matter what we thought were solutions. I know I am not so trusting in my own decisions at this point. I like objective feedback from my friends.
It was incredibly hard for me to face the fact that my parents could have been so wrong, that they could have misled me so badly. When I finally accepted that fact, I could not accept the new fact they did not welcome the news. All in all, I could have used some help much earlier. The time period I came out of the group was mostly dark ages. Most who left or were cast out were believers on some level, like me, and were silent. I was not aware of Ray Franz's books until 1992, a full 18 years after I left the group. In 1995 I found Randy Watters and got on the internet and since then lots has changed for me. Gary B