Well I've been here for over a year now and it's been great, extremely helpful. I have made new friends and found a place where I feel I belong, people with like minds.
Anyway, 6 months before I started posting here my life was in the crapper or so I thought. I have maintained an assumption here that I'm single. My wife moved out and left me about 6 months before I started posting here and she said she would never come back. Now some may ask why not get a divorce, well I looked into it and there is a problem with her health or at least there was until recently. This problem was so serious that a judge would not grant a divorce with her medical problems unless she filed, and I still don't understand what her filing instead of me has to do with it. So after that she went and did her own thing and I tried to do mine. I never really considered myself married after that but I wasn't single either so I didn't try and find or get into a seriuos relationship since then. There have been people on this board that have tried to set me up but I've tried ti shy away from it and not put someone else in harms way.
For the last month my wife and I have been working on putting things back together, and I'm happy about this. We are working on each other, but more importantly she has realized that life is not one big kegger. She has told me that she figured after the wedding life would resume with her going out with the girls all the time to the bars whenever and I tried to tell her a marriage does not work that way. I understand hittin the town with the girls once in a while but not three or four times a week. That's what broke the whole thing up...she wanted to party. Now she didn't do this before we were married or else I would have no room to complain, she just felt like partying alot.
So with any luck in the near future we will be a family again, we are going to counseling and talking.
I decided to maintain a singleness here because quite frankly, it's been very humiliating for me and to try and deal with this and putting the borg into the past and not repressing it would have been too difficult for me.
I hope I have not hurt anyone, or lost anyone's trust because of this. I guess it was a very immature way of dealing with the situation. I am truly sorry.