"Well Rounded JW Kids"

LDH

Well, my parents (from NY) came out to visit a couple of weeks ago, no notice or anything (they live 3,000 miles away) and knocked on my door on a Friday Evening.

As hubby was not home from work yet, and I was laying down from yet another migraine, I got extremely agitated when the doorbell rang. Now, I don't open my door for anyone when I'm not feeling well.

To make a long story short, it was my parents, who spent about 6 days. I ended up physically emotionally and spiritually burnt out, and when I get a chance I will post that whole story.

However, I thought I would relate just one experience that occured while they were here--an example of how frustrating talking to any JW can be, and it's worse when it's your parents.

For a little added JW irony, I offer the following (I hope you enjoy it!):

Setting: My daughter's school carnival, Friday Evening of my parent's arrival
Theme: Banging your head against a wall
Title: Mom, you can't be this GD stupid!

Mom: (as 3 little black girls walk by with a headful of weaved hair) I am so sick of seeing black women and girls with fake hair I could SPIT

Lisa: (already in a pissy mood) Well Mom, you never say anything about the little white girls with spiral perms and colors, and that's just as fake! Besides, after all those years with the #($*%& family in your congregation, you should be used to seeing weaves!

Mom: (immediately on the defensive)Those girls are doing FINE! @*#& is in COLLEGE full time on scholarships and #*@& is working while aux. pio'g! Those kids are extremely well-rounded!

Lisa: (pregnant and WAY too easily agitated) DOESN'T IT STRIKE YOU AS A LITTLE ODD THAT THE SAME #*&$ ELDER WHO COUNSELED ME ABOUT NOT GOING TO COLLEGE NOW HAS TWO DAUGHTERS IN?

Mom: (hackles up) No one ever told you not to go to college!

Lisa: I'd like to share a scripture with you, Mom. Liars will NOT inherit God's Kingdom!

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At this point, Lisa, in order to avoid a full out argument and possible miscarriage after jumping up and down on her mother's head for like 10 minutes, goes into a zen-like Buddhist trance.

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So you see, it doesn't matter how truthful what you are saying is; they have selective memory. Faithful JW are programmed to forget everything negative that happened to them for the preservation of the group.

She really believes children deprived of a normal childhood are 'well rounded.'

If the TMS overseer is here, I'll take a "W" for profanity during a presentation!

JW72

Hi LDH, I enjoyed your story, it just goes to show, we all have very similar experiences that we all think are unique.

Don't let it get you down, I feel bad because it actually made me smile.

Love

Chris

Mulan

That is so funny. Thank you for posting. I love the part about jumping up and down on your mother's head!! I only wish...... Mothers are the worst I think. Mine has always been a problem to me, and we were ALWAYS Jehovah's Witnesses too, from the time I was five years old. My husband likes to tell people who are JW's about her, and how the "truth" had no transforming power on her at all. When my daughter was about 5 years old, I read a book called "My Mother My Self" trying to STILL deal with my mother in a sane manner. But, the irony of that book is that it helped me to be a much better mother to my daughter than mine was to me. My daughter is now 31, with two children, and we are extremely close, and she has my permission to tell me when I am acting, or talking, like my mother. I also have three sons, and have a great relationship with all my children, all who are no longer JW's. The boys, also, can tell me when I sound like grandma. She has alienated all of her family now. But, it's us, not her. Oh no! Never her.

philo

I got bitten in my teens, so I've no story like yours to tell. But I hear ya Lisa, I REALLY hear ya.

A side point. I found most of my new jW friends were more Wrounded than me, except in the ability to think things out from scratch, if you follow.

philo

Francois

I guess lots of us had similar experiences. In 1963, I was told by an elder that I shouldn't go to college because it would, "be like building a big shopping center right where an interstate highway was going through." If I had listened to that pompous blusterer, I guess I'd have spent the last forty years cleaning apartments, hanging gutter, and God knows what else. I'm certainly happy I had the sense not to listen to the dolt.

Has anyone ever noticed that elders usually have college educations, good paying jobs, nice houses, the latest model cars, etc.? And these guy attempt to get the young people under their "care" not to educate themselves.

A friend of mine was a missionary in Honduras. Did you know the Borg attempts to get missionaries to renounce their American citizenship? That would mean they couldn't come back to the US. He was too smart to do something that dumb, and when his health began to fail, he and his wife came back.

And the WTB&TS isn't the very embodiment of evil?

Francoise

nojw86

LDH, why do mothers and mother-in-laws >>GET ON THAT LAST NERVE. grrrrrrrr,,, nojw

peaceloveharmony

lisa, sorry your mom is such a pain in the ass...but man! your story had me ROTFLMAO hugs to ya sweetie ((((((lisa))))))

love
harmony

jurs

I can see why you feel drained!!!!! be glad she lives far away...JURS

Pathofthorns

There is nothing more frustrating than their "spiritual amnesia".

Enjoy your posts lisa. You've done well. Hang in there.

Path
ps. The past is embarrassing and there's nothing we can do. Enjoy the present and look forward

TMS

Lisa,
"G"'s on "Application Made Clear" and "Subject Theme Emphasized".

Our own experience is "case in point". We have a 30 yr old son, who sacrificed all normal growing-up experiences, eventually becoming a Regular Pioneer and Ministerial Servant(although, he had no real inclination for it).

Once disfellowshipped (and while pursuing reinstatement, because of his love for us), he began to do things that were simply best for him; a little schooling, pursuing a career, etc. and has really blossomed.

Our early years of parental nurturing were anything but well-rounded, but, hopefully, we've not wised up too late.

TMS

"Well Rounded JW Kids"

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