by micheal 32 Replies latest jw friends
If there is one lesson I have learned in all of this, you have to be yourself. You can't be someone you are not. You can't be the person that they imagine or want you to be. That never works.
So you have to love yourself enough to be yourself, and you have to love the person you love for who they are. Unconditonal love works both ways. The person you love needs to love you just as you are, and you need to love them for who they are.
Tammy
There might have been a time, way back, for someone if I was in a relationship with them. It would have been very limited, and once I found out all I know now, I would cease to go regardless of what they said.
I am dating an older man right now. Have known him for 6yrs. He is 63 and so loving. He also is very religious. He teaches a christian whatever to little children. Three times a week. He never was a jws and really doesn't care who they are. Even with his beliefs he can see where I am coming from and he understands that I will not go where I do not want to go and he still understands. After his wife died he had to comes to terms with life and death.
If he didn't he could take a walk and he also knows that. We do our own thing but come together for life and love. We don't expect anything from each other except love. I don't expect for him to fit my profile and he doesn't expect me to fit his.
To me this is a perfect balance in life. He also is very bible literate so we share alot. Although the stuff he comes up with makes me roar. He went through the bible to disprove some stuff about homosexuals because I was dealing with my youngest son and how I relate to it all. He said well if you are going to take the bible at face value you better start sacrificing a bull on sunday. Love was what the main message was and that I needed to show unconditional love and not allow another human being to tell me how to deal with. Search your heart, search your soul and go with what you are feeling.
I did and have never been happier.
Cathy
NO
Any relationship has to be based on trust and honesty. Would she know that you were faking it ? If so she is a party to the lie and a hypocrite to her faith. If not, then you would be fooling her and treating her with contempt.
No ! it cannot be done.
In fact the WT used to warn against potential suitors who would feign interest just to get married to a witness, then drop the religion . I have known one or two over the years. I guess that is why they said you shold not date a person who was not baptised
HELL NO!!!!!
No, no and no. I am leaving now, and I will not let anyone keep me in. I guess I use the same reasoning the BORG uses on new converts: "If you don't accept the truth leave, how will any of your loved ones accept the truth, get smart and leave too? If I stay, then there is no incentive for them to leave.
absolutely not!
NO FREAKIN WAY. i love my mom more than i will ever love anyone else in the whole world. she is my best friend, she is the best mom that has EVER lived. she would do anything for me -- except leave the organization. and i would do anything for her -- except go back. leaving was the most difficult thing i have ever done in my little life, and i could never make myself relinquish all the living i'm able to do now. i'd rather walk through fire wearing a gasoline dress.
HELL NO I WOULDN'T GO!
