My family gave a great witness at my little sister's wedding...NOT!

by laylaluv 31 Replies latest jw friends

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  integ

  You could quote the story of Jesus eating with the tax collector's and such, but I did the same thing to an elder, and his response was that today Jehovah is acting through the FDS and that although that may have been the "course of action" in Jesus day, times are different and we need to follow the "Direction" of the FDS in all matters today because He has chosen THEM to dispense "New Truths" to us at this time, and we MUST follow Their direction. You see, everything can be explained away by saying that, they think.

  Integ.
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  asleif_dufansdottir

  Think about the position all us "evil" DF/DA/Apostates put the society in. You know, we should really use this to better effect.

  Most, if not all the people I personally saw "come into the truth" did so because of friendships or family relationships to JWs. I can't think of anyone I knew of who came thru the D-T-D work. So, the society should know that informal witnessing and relationships are its best bet to bring in new people.

  The wedding could very well have been the thing to get the ball rolling with some of the non-JW friends and family, that would have led to a Bible study and them 'coming into the truth' (TM). Instead, because of the Society's new insistance and emphasis on shunning, everybody there had a front-row seat to one of the worst aspects of being a JW, and the amount of control they exert. I can't imagine that any of them will have a remotely positive view of the religion from now on, or express any interest whatsoever except "How on earth can you treat your family that way??" (not likely to lead to a Bible study, is it?)

  "We" have them between a rock and a hard place. If JWs don't shun us, we could 'rub off' on them, causing people to 'leave the truth' (TM). If they do shun us, it's a horrible example to all who see it, causing people to 'not come into the truth' (TM) in the first place.

  (Mr. Burns' voice, rubbing hands) "Yes, Ex-cellent"
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  RunningMan

  I wonder if Witnesses realize that they are causing immeasurable damage to their public relations by shunning persons.

  At my father's funeral last year, two of my sisters didn't show up because one of my sister's is df'd. At the funeral, the df'd one sat off from the group and talked to only worldly people. The worldly relatives who saw this were stunned at the stupidity and small-mindedness of the Witnesses.

  At that event, the JWs destroyed any possibility they may ever have had of converting those attending.

  Congratulations laylaluv, for your strong sensible attitude.
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  xjw_b12

  Thank you for taking the time to post your story and refer to your biography. Your story and your attitude is an inspiration.
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  sandy

  Good job!!

  I admire your courage. I know I would have craweld in a corner and made it easier for my family to shun me.

  I also told her that if I needed three elders to tell me I was forgiven, then Jesus should have never sacrificed his life for our sins.

  This is an excellent point.
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  Nathan Natas

  Hi Layla,

  The stories of your little sister's wedding and your biography are remarkable.

  What a pity that your family denies themselves fellowship with such a strong and intelligent person.

  Welcome to the international apostate community(tm)!
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  bikerchic

  laylaluv!

  I enjoyed reading your experience. You set a good example of how a true Christian true apostate should act.......LOL

  I recently had the displeasure of telling my son who is Df'ed that his dad is remarring. I felt really bad cuz he happens to live within miles of his dad and sees him regularly and yet his dad didn't even let him know he was officially engaged or anything about the impending wedding. I wouldn't have said anything if I had known he didn't know about it because it brought back all the hurt of being Df'ed and shunned again for him, wow typing this has brought tears to my eyes..........shunning is so hurtful!

  Kate (of the feeling all the pain class.....)
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  detective

  Rock on, sister! You should be proud of yourself. You handled yourself very well!

  It couldn't have been easy- but you set the tone of the affair by your self-assurance. You seized the power on the first day... leaving them to flounder around with their awkwardness on the second day.
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  Special K

  Hey, leylaluv.

  Welcome!!!

  What a post.

  Inspiring

  BRAVE

  Courageous

  I can't tell you how glad I am that you posted that...I AM GLAD YOU POSTED THAT!.. It has built me up and made me feel better... the part about the 3 elders... was magnificently said..and made sense, too.

  Look forward to reading your further postings.

  Special K
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  detective

  Another note:

  my friend who left the witnesses last year will be marrying in the fall. I wonder what sort of witness his parents think they will be giving when they don't show!