by Victorian sky 37 Replies latest jw friends
A message to everyone that posts and/or reads on this topic
Your true friends will still be your friends. True friendship is that way. The JWs that no longer have anything to do with you are the FALSE FRIENDS. They never really were your friends. You are better off without them.
The love of true friendship is obvious.......
Mr. KIM
There is one active witness (ministerial servant) with whom I'll still have a drink with from time to time. We pioneered together. I'm amazed at how he hasn't shunned me even after having seen me smoking, swearing, and bragging about my escapades. I've often asked him how his conscience can justify associating with me. He says it's because I'm inactive and not disfellowshipped. Maybe he figures I'll return someday. I think the real reason he'll hang with me on occasion is to ventilate his Watchtower induced madness. It looks to me like he despises most of his fellow witnesses. For me it's therapy in the sense that I can be reminded of how good I've got now that I'm out. I just hope that one day my friend will wake up.
I only had two good JW friends when I stopped going to meetings. One has basically abandoned me. The other doesn't know I'm not going, so he still hangs out with me. He's not very spiritual and hasn't even brought up anything JW-related the 10 months I haven't been going. So he doesn't really count.
So far my JW family still has contact with me, we follow the don't ask, don't tell rule. I'm sure one day that will end thought because I'm just too outspoken.
I had one long time JW girlfriend who is inactive herself and she kept contact with me but it was conditional. Then after I flat told her that since I've remarried I absolutely have no desire to go back to the KH. I also shared with her some of the silentlamb news from Dateline, well a week later I got an email from her cutting me off! Seems I'm bad association now!
It really hurt me especially coming from her and inactive publisher.
Kate
Only the ones who were smart enuf to leave with me which btw
was after the Dateline show.
when i went to my sis' graduation party a couple of months back i saw all these people i'd grown up with in the truth, and most of them, including my stepdad's brother who i've known since i was a little kid, didnt even recognize me anymore! i mean, sheesh, i look a *little* different now, but i've only been gone three years, you'd think theyd still be able to tell who i am! yep, i think i'm dead and buried to them.
ps, welcome to the new guy
No friends or relatives try or ever tried to keep in touch. I'm not shunned tho, they all talk to me whenever paths cross. I tend to like it that way too
Steve
None whatsoever they avoid me like I'm a leper, its very sad as I liked these people alot. I guess they were not my real friends.
Nope sure didn't!
I was raised this way and raised my children this way, maybe because the 3 frineds that have stuck by me have been there a long long time, but any friends that are not rooted in years don't stay friends......I have realized that even though my 3 loyal friends have stuck by myside I can not talk with them about anything related to JW that is my true feelings...but every situaltion is different, my brother for ex. faded away a little over a year ago and everyone shuns him because he grew a beard, I guess if I ever make an outward apearance not accepted by thier values then I will also be totally shunned. until then I am just keeping my mouth shut and trying to be true to myself for the first time in my life...just try not to get in debates with them over your feelings and try to cherish the fact that they have not left you and find some other common ground......that is what I am trying to do and it seems to work best
hope your days become brighter and happier
