I really want to thank everyone for their replies. I was too whipped last night to respond; it was like getting all that out drained me but it was something I needed to do. Just when I feel totally disillusioned with online 'life', I get warmly surprised by the outpouring of care and concern and it means a lot to me. Thank you.
(((Wasa))), you are so right about feeling the kids' pain and how dreadful that is. We moms (and dads) are used to fixing things, making them better and so it is incredibly hard when our kids are hurting and we can't work our parental magic and make it all go away. Thank you so much for your support.
((((Prisca and Steve)))) Thank you for your kindness. Btw, Steve, Justin thinks he would feel a little better if we had your salsa recipe
(((Tammy and Rhonda))) Yes, I am very proud of my kids. I can't describe how much my heart swells with love and pride when I see my daughter treating her grandmother with such tenderness. I've discussed with her how she is feeling and explained that it's ok if she's scared and doesn't want to visit Gramma as often as I do, that it's normal and for her not to feel guilty about it, but so far she's chosen to be right there. Her courage inspires me.
(((Scully, Margy, Shamus, Craig, Lea, Ascot, Sixy, Robyn, Harry))) Your expressions of support and concern have been very heartwarming...thank you all. Yes, my mother in law is a wonderful lady and I can truly say she is loved by everyone who meets her. She is going to be sorely missed.
(((((Lee and Joy)))) You both are so right, in that it is a difficult thing and also that being there for the kids is my priority. Sometimes, just wrapping my arms around them and pulling them close gives me comfort, even when I have to wrestle my son to the floor to get those elusive hugs. Thank you both.
(((Blondie))) I'm so sorry to hear that your family is going thru difficult times as well. You're very wise and this has truly brought so much into perspective for me; all of the petty things have taken a backseat and we are focused on what's really important. Thank you for the encouragement.
(((Josh))) Thank you as well for the encouraging words.
Love,
Dana