Cofty, I'd appreciate a dictionary definition that makes the distinction you are drawing. It doesn't have to be identical, just one that presents it similarly to the way you do.
A false dichotomy:
A - If you dislike someone because of what they are that is bigotry
B - if you object to what somebody does, that isn't
You are missing options:
C - If you object to what somebody does because of what they are or what they believe, that is bigotry.
D - if you are intolerant to the beliefs and actions of someone you disagree with, that is bigotry
etc. etc. etc
Why you are side stepping this point is beyond me. Hating a Muslim is bigotry, yes. Hating Islam isn't, true. Hating a Muslim wearing a head covering because you don't like having their religion shoved in front of you is bigotry. Firing a Muslim for wearing a head covering is intolerant. Firing a JW for not performing core work duties and serving customers, not bigotry. Calling for a JW to be fired because the origin of the misunderstanding was a religious belief is bigotry.
You would make reasonable accommodation for my friend with the wifi nuttiness. I'd also make reasonable accommodation if there was more than one cook to handle an objectionable dish. I find that a reasonable compromise, you don't. We can agree to disagree. But choosing not to find reasonable accommodation because it is a superstition religion you don't agree with and that you want to see left at home is being intolerant to beliefs and practices you don't agree with.
Refusing to employ a JW because their religion prevents them fulfilling their job description isn't.
Totally agree. And if that were the situation under discussion, no problem. We have the statements made by the employer that it was a misunderstanding and that she wasn't trying to deny the customer his side dish, we have the statements of the disgruntled customer, we have invented narratives of what happened behind the scenes, we have people calling for her termination, and we have people calling for her termination because she should leave her religion at home. If we can't agree the last point is textbook bigotry we don't have enough common ground for a productive conversation on this topic.(Though I agree with you on the vast majority of topics)