I tell the truth but with certain withholds about myself.
I tell them that I am appalled that my brother was shunned from age 17 onwards because of his one-time relationship with a girl. I tell them that now, at age 59. he is still shunned and that those who shun him have no idea just why they're shunning him, it's all so long ago and did they feel that Jesus would have joined in with that?