timeheals, it's hard when your parents are strong in the religion. When you decide you no longer need their approval, you will feel so free. Accepting and grieving that, may take some time. If their love is, indeed, conditional, well, for me, that was a big blow. Once I accepted that and grieved the loss of that which I never had, I was able to be my own person, with no shame, no regrets.
Yes, it can be done.