Our own personal growth and leaving (page 3)

Mr Lebowski

Thanks for sharing some fascinating stories (or even hinting at them).

I wonder how many of us levered ourselves out of the WTS because we met someone who made us feel special in a romantic way. Not that we met someone who controlled us out of it, but where we felt like a real individual.

I suspect that many of these relationships didn't work out for us in a long-term way - we weren't ready for a relationship, and we probably weren't even ready to pick someone who was a good candidate (I wasn't, both counts), but I bet a lot of us were so starved for affection that we bolted as soon as we got some from another source.

Comments?

"Doubt is not a pleasant condition, but certainty is absurd." Voltaire Love and doughnuts,

Ed Duderino

Xena

but where we felt like a real individual.

That pretty much hits the nail on the head for me. It seemed like the first time a person had actully looked at me and saw ME...lol and still liked me. Someone who had no reason to feel the way he did about me....but he did anyway. It was a revelation that I was actually lovable just for me. Once I discovered I had worth outside of being a Jehovah Witness (among other things) it was a short step to looking at their beliefs with a more dispassionate eye. And seeing exactly how screwed up it all was

suspect that many of these relationships didn't work out for us in a long-term way - we weren't ready for a relationship, and we probably weren't even ready to pick someone who was a good candidate (I wasn't, both counts),

No, no they don't, but damn they were good while they lasted weren't they????

logansrun

I want my money Lebowski!

Bradley (I loved that movie)

Mr Lebowski

Logansrun, you win the award for first acknowledgement of my handle. (tell him what he's won, Bob!)

La Capra

For me it was #1, but thanks to the fact that guys out there did like me, and because I nice,I would talk to them. I discovered that there were really nice, wonderful people everywhere,and the JWs didn't have the corner on the love market, and for a man-made organization to command whom I could and couldn't love, be it romantic or brotherly, or friendly, became an utterly ridiculous notion that on its face defied all reason and logic. And further research proved that it was preposterous.

Shoshana

Frannie Banannie

Gawrsh.....I was force-fed so much of the "Gnu-Whirled" Translation that I developed a Jesus complex/identity crisis......so I wrote the Gov. Potty and told 'em what white-washed graves they are (among other less agreeable terms) and waited for 'em to "crucify" me.....It took 'em just 6 weeks to "kill" me by DF'ing.....

Frannie B (of the "now let's have a party" class)

Maverick

My grandmother, (paternal) was a dud and my Mom hated her. My Mom remarried and promished that the kids would not be taught any religion. When we grew up we could figure it out for ourselves. So I had zero knowledge of God, the Bible, or anything. The J-duds hit me at the right time. I believed it all. Loyalty is my highest personal value. I was a very loyal little dud. Loyalty to the RF and to God is very low with the J-dud Masters.They push Loyalty to the Org over everything. When my "truthbaby" wife of fifteen years dumped me, my daughter, and the duds for her "soulmate", I started to see the cracks in their way of life. It still took four years to see what fakes they are. And the dear loyal friend, (Blackguard) of 20-plus years helped me finally get my mind right! I am still making those pricks pay for their lies! Maverick

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