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The Fall Guy

Best wishes Paradiseseekeer.

You've got your life-course decided, now you have to decide how "gentle" or "hard" your exit from the cult will be. There are are consequences associated with both choices. I hope you emerge as unscathed as possible.

scratchme1010

Thanks for sharing. I relate to a lot of what you posted, including getting baptized at 14. Great story.

AllTimeJeff

Hi there. What you are doing is very brave, and what speaks to me is your plan to leave, understanding that is the only way to become your whole self. While I know many who choose the fade, I think if you are ever going to personally fulfill your potential, leaving is the best way to become who you really can be.

But it's not always the happiest path, especially at first. When I left, I left all my family and friends behind and essentially started over with no one, outside of internet boards, which I really appreciated. Sounds like you have friends outside. To me that is a huge key. I chose a bit of isolation, not knowing at first how to make friends, or be a friend. That will always be my #1 piece of advice to anyone, create a support network for yourself (outside of this board ;) as soon as possible. This place is such a huge part of my recovery, but it doesn't replace the excellent help real life interactions with in person friends can have.

My last thought is this, choose to be happy in spite of what has happened. By all means heal, but also forgive and let go of the past. Take the good and don't be bitter. Best wishes!

cha ching

Hi paradiseeker,

You have a strong will for truth, that is why you feel the need to leave. We all wanted "truth", and that is why we are all disappointed and even mad at WT for lying to us...

When asked the monumental question, "Where will you go?" Simply answer, "Somewhere I am not lied to"

paradiseseeker

Thank you very much for your kind words. I'll keep you updated.

ONTHEWAYOUT

Yes, I've already considered that option, but in my case I think it wouldn't work. Me and my family are well-known among the congregations in our city and I myself have some very close friends who would be always asking what's going on if I ever stop attending meetings or become inactive. Apart from that, I want to be involved in my community, culturally and politically, and because of that I no longer want to be "careful" with the things I post on social media, so I think that leaving is the best option for me.

LOISLANE LOOKING FOR SUPERMAN

No words... You are a wonderful and brave mother. You certainly must love and know your daughter if you could just look through WT's FOG and see her sincerity in her eyes. I hope you are right. And of course, I'll keep you informed! Thanks for your concern.

NEVER A JW

¡Qué bien que haya más hispanohablantes por aquí! Muchas gracias, de verdad. Bueno, creo que lo que he hecho hasta ahora era seguir lo que me parecía más lógico y coherente, aún me queda demostrar valor el día que decida salirme. De seguro vuestro apoyo me ayudará a seguir adelante sin importar lo que pase.

XANTHIPPE

I hope the best for your daughter (although she already has the best mother/father). If she likes this job, she will surely enjoy it despite the challenges that we as teachers face nowadays. Well, I think that I am shy but I somehow manage to make new friends rather easily, even non-JWs, so I think you are right. Thank you!

THE FALL GUY

Thank you. Well, I think that I'll choose the "hard" one but I'm waiting for the best and least harmful moment for me and my loved ones. It is going to hurt anyway but I know that I can rely on all of you.

ALLTIMEJEFF

Thank you for your words, it's very comforting to read that some people see so many positive aspects through the things we write that in many cases we are not aware of. I think you are right, as I told to ONEWAYOUT, leaving is the most suitable option for me as I would get rid of WT boundaries and develop my full potential. I hope you have made some friends by now, in my case I already have some but not as close as my JW friends are, so it is going to be kinda hard.

CHA CHING

Yes, you are absolutely right. Even preferring being lied to and keep our comfort zone is unbearable in this situation as we have to deprive ourselves from a lot of vital things in life.

OnTheWayOut

You are well thinking out your plans. I wish you well. Carry on.

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