Longhairgal, you're so right, especially about jw's criticizing ones for getting jobs!
This one elder's wife that I thought was a good friend, said NO you shouldn't go get a job, but instead you should be pioneering! - I had told her that my husband was having a hard time with the business (floor maintenance) and needed my help to bring in extra money.
She said if only I would seek the kingdom first, then by some miracle all my bills would get paid. I said, We don't have time, I don't want the electricity to get turned off.
I did get a job that I happened to enjoy, which was another mark against my character. I didn't know that if you didn't mind the work at your secular job, it showed up your spiritual weakness. I made all the meetings and my talk assignments and got a few hours of service in every month. OH lor', that was nowhere near good enuff.
The more people rolled their eyes at my faithlessness the more down it dragged me.
Like you said, the dubs are not in touch with reality. And isn't it ironic in this US of A, the country built on hard work and persistence, that the WT has built an entire society around the idea that working to earn our subsistence is BAD! We should wait around for a flippin' miracle to show up and grant our wishes and pay our bills.