People are rightly curious/concerned about the living situation which is why the green screen sleuthing is occurring. Given his history of manipulation, there is concern he's staying there for the wrong reasons, i.e. doesn't want to move his bunker, can't afford the rent on a new place due to shrinking financial support, thinks the optics of her forgiving him would move exJWs to do the same...
It takes quite a woman to forgive all that, but the whole "sexual incompatibility" aspect of it is where most reconciliation attempts would naturally hit a brick wall. How does that get fixed? Does she need to put herself on a leash and call him Daddy?
Who knows what kind of arrangement they have now. One would think she'd desire to remove herself and the children as much as she can from this shitshow if she is concerned about privacy. Every one has their own red lines so to speak. Mine would be looking at his ugly face everyday and being tempted to put a bullet into my own.