Do you tell your spouse or partner EVERYTHING? (page 5)

drwtsn32

you could tell him while he's asleep.

Wow tink... I had no idea you were so devious...

BeautifulGarbage

Married long time here.

And I tell him plenty!

He just has trouble remembering it.

teejay

.... uh..... well..... see....

...of COURSE I do! That's what marriage is all about, right?

Undecided

You might as well tell her everything, she will find it out anyway, one way or another.

Ken P.

joannadandy

Do you tell your spouse or partner everything? do you think its best to be totally honest with each other? Is there ever a good time to lie when your in a relationship?

I don't tell them everything no. But this isn't exactly because I am trying to "hide" anything. Just some things don't come. People don't think to ask, and others don't think to tell. I don't think this someone trying to be dishonest.So I don't think it is entirely fair for someone to say "YOU NEVER TOLD ME THAT" a) You never asked b) I didn't know it was such a big deal to you c) I never thought to tell you.

Plus how do you know when full disclosure is good? I have far too many girlfriends that want to open up and gush about everything that has ever happened to them so that there can be this closeness between two people. (Debora Tannen talks about this in her research. Women bond through shared experience, men bond through activities.) Therefore a lot of my guy friends say "Why the hell is she telling me this? I don't want to know this!!"

Lies and disclosure are two different things. Lies are told diliberatly to hide the truth. Disclosure is something that just takes time. I don't make it a habit of lying, but I don't make it a habbit of pouring my heart to anyone either.

Frannie Banannie

Let's see now.....I was married to a man who would lie about ANY and EVERYthing, no matter how obvious the lies were and even when the truth would serve him better.....a man who loved to use his lyin' to play head games......and to run me down and humiliate me in public....

The answer is an unqualified NO! I even learned to lie to HIM, tho I had been an open and pretty honest person before....

Frannie B

JT

Do you tell your spouse or partner everything

yep and she does the same for me-

in fact we will often laugh and joke about the fact that we have friends who say:

" I could never tell my wife or husband this or that about me , THEY WOULD TAKE OUT A CAN OF WHIP A$$ on me"

when we can no longer tell each other everything we both realize for "US"

that is when it is time to GET THE HELL UP OUT OF HERE

SMILE

TresHappy

No, and I think some things are better left unsaid.

Country Girl

Whew! that's for sure Tres! I once told my husband that I was developing feelings for one of my fellow students. I thought it might be an indication that we needed more time together in the relationship, otherwise it woudn't have happned. It accomplished two things: 1) hurt his feelings; and 2) made me aware that total honesty is not *always* the best policy, if it's brutal.

CG

tinkerbell82

i totally agree tres and CG. sometimes you just don't wanna know. case in point - my b/f just told me last night that when he and i got together he was still with his now-ex, just hadnt broken up with her yet.......um, i could have gone without knowing that, thanks. :\

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