Was it just my hall?

by freedom96 28 Replies latest jw friends

  • freedom96
    freedom96

    My wife and I joke about the differences in our own halls all the time. I swear she lived in a country club compared to my hall.

    Just to give a couple of examples:

    And this is from when I was growing up until I left home at 18.

    Every single weekend was field service. Meeting one day, service sometimes after (50%) and the other day 100 % chance we were going out door to door. Hard core door to door too. Rain or shine, seriously.

    In my home, it was not as if I could play sick. If I was throwing up last nights dinner as I was telling my parents I did not feel good, then maybe, but that never happened. So every weekend was the meeting and service the other day for sure. No weekends off ever!

    Every meeting. Period. Again, if your guts were hanging out of your mouth from heaving all night, then one might have a pass. I remember being too sick to go to the meeting only once. If we were on a rare vacation, everything would be done to make sure that we went to the meeting. Bonus if we knew someone in the hall and could go out in service too. Oh joy.

    My dad was an elder, and when he gave the talk in another hall, we had to attend the entire meeting. Now we had our meetings on Saturdays always, and of course everyone else had meetings on Sundays. So we would dutifully attend our meeting, to set the right example. Then on Sunday we would go to the other meeting. And get this: My dad would make us attend that Watchtower study too! Aaaaggghhh!!!

    Any infraction, no matter how trivial, had to be brought before the elders. One time I lied about my homework being done in order to go on a small vacation. It was not done, and I was brought before the elders.

    Now, before you say that it was my parents that were so wacked, this was the way the whole congregation was.

    I belonged to several halls after that as an adult, and though none of them were as bad as the one I grew up in, they all had some elements of crap that is discussed here nearly every day.

    But how extreme was my hall when you compare yours to it?

  • Stacy Smith
    Stacy Smith

    My hall was pretty anal too but your dad was way more anal than my dad. My parents allowed me to "come into the truth" on my own terms as they felt it would stick better that way. Instead of me coming in they came out. Well they didn't come out in a gay way, but you know what I mean.

  • gumby
    gumby

    Heres the deal dude.

    Remember the 7 congregations in Rev.? They all had different personalities, problems, leaders with different personalities, age diffrences, influence by one who is a leader and a dick.

    Actually the truth of the matter is........the Watchtower in the language it uses in it's teaching material......would draw various viewpoints from various ones. Their teachings are as confusing as the bible itself and no one reader comes away with unity with all others.........unless forced to. Different halls have different personalities as do all other groups.

    Gumby

  • freedom96
    freedom96

    You know what is funny? Both of my parents are out today. Trust me, if they can leave, anyone can.

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    Freedom? Do I know you? I swear, you just described my hall and my family exactly. Are you my brother the super elder having secret doubts and posting on the naughty internet? haha.

    Ugh. I tell people this stuff--even other witnesses, and they look at me like I'm wearing a couple of extra eyeballs or something. We once have a multi-family meeting with an elder mediator because this other girl in the hall (she was a real bitch) and I couldn't get along. We were IN THE SIXTH GRADE!!! And the every Saturday service thing... bookstudy in our house. There was NO WAY to miss it or service. Usually we went in service on Sundays too. Also at least one afternoon after school was required.

    I had a very stunted childhood, I'm beginning to realize.

    Odrade

  • sens
    sens
    But how extreme was my hall when you compare yours to it?

    You Hall was worse than mine....the hall i was in was dubbed ''hall from hell''....but still in a diff way to yours...ours was just constantly negative. Nobody was ever happy...Nobody ever got along...there was always 'some' drama.There was always this 'dark cloud' over that place, and still is...just in this case...the dark cloud is the people in the place.

    3 Sens 4

  • smurfette
    smurfette

    Freedom96- You described my hall/family to a T! Just replace your dad with a Super-Pioneer single mom. We never ever missed meetings for any reason and that went for the whole hall. Same for service too.

    My best friend refused to go to a meeting one time as she was really sick and her Presiding Overseer/ Uncle/ custodial guardian/ warden was ticked. When I asked where she was after the meeting various members of her family rolled their eyes and said she was being a drama queen and probably just wanted to get out of the meeting. When they got home they found her crawling around on the floor by herself. She had appendicitis and because they'd left her alone and didn't listen to her, by the time they called the ambulance it was almost too late. Her appendix burst just as they were about to operate and she almost died. She was only 14 or 15 at the time. None of them learned from this at all and she received no apology.

  • smurfette
    smurfette

    LOL Odrade! I get the extra eyeball look alot too when I tell what I think are funny stories to other people about my childhood.

  • drwtsn32
    drwtsn32

    freedom96: Wow... your story sounds like either a cult survivor experience or a shining family example given at the District Convention.

  • blondie
    blondie
    My dad was an elder, and when he gave the talk in another hall, we had to attend the entire meeting. Now we had our meetings on Saturdays always, and of course everyone else had meetings on Sundays. So we would dutifully attend our meeting, to set the right example. Then on Sunday we would go to the other meeting. And get this: My dad would make us attend that Watchtower study too! Aaaaggghhh!!!

    Freedom, this is pretty extreme. We went to morning meetings but if my husband had an afternoon talk we would sleep in and just go in the afternoon. All the elders in this area did it that way. Were they short on elders in your hall?

    Blondie

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