tell them while you can

teejay

One day a teacher asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.

That Saturday, the teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and listed what everyone else had said about that individual.

On Monday she gave each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling. "Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so much." were most of the comments.

No one ever mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one another. That group of students moved on.

Several years later, one of the students was killed in Viet Nam and his teacher attended the funeral of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin before. He looked so handsome, so mature.

The church was packed with his friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The teacher was the last one to bless the coffin. As she stood there, one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes." Then he said: "Mark talked about you a lot."

After the funeral, most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher.

"We want to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might recognize it."

Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many times. The teacher knew without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him.

"Thank you so much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark treasured it."

All of Mark's former classmates started to gather around. Charlie smiled rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list. It's in the top drawer of my desk at home."

Chuck's wife said, "Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."

"I have mine too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."

Then Vicki, another classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times," Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all saved our lists."

That's when the teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends who would never see him again.

The density of people in society is so thick that we forget that life will end one day and we don't know when that one day will be. Wouldn't it be a good idea to tell the people you love and care for that they are special and important? Tell them while you can.

shera

Istn't that nice Teejay? I recived that in my mail today as well.

xjw_b12

Touching story teejay. BTW you are special and important to me and alot of other people here. Thanks for posting that.

happyout

I've seen this, too, and it's great. If we could all mentally try to think of good things about people, and then say it to them, we would all be so much happier.

Thanks, Teejay, this was great.

Happyout

shotgun

Thanks teejay

Very nice.... very true as well...it sure does hurt to lose someone you love or cared for and felt that there were things left unsaid.

I'd like to thank XJW B12 for helping me....btw x I have an orthodontist you can see about those chompers.

teejay

My baby sister sent this to me and I thought it was pretty cool. we're going to do this for members of our immediate family. It'll be interesting to see the final results. Maybe it'll be something I carry with me the rest of my life.

Edited to add:

Btw, xjw_b12,
Thanks for what you said. It was unexpected and made me feel warm and fuzzy -- a feeling I'm not all that accustomed to... being a man and erra-thang.

tell them while you can

teejay

shera

xjw_b12

happyout

shotgun

teejay

xjw_b12

wannaexit

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